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Thanksgiving week at Sassafras Farm starts now! I’ve got a giant pot of beans simmering, and I’m about to slice up a ham and put a couple loaves of bread in the oven. Arriving this weekend: Ross, whose ammunition arrived before him, and Weston, who is spending another night in Spencer to say goodbye and HOW WILL WE SURVIVE A WEEK APART and other mushy things to his girlfriend (who is going out of town for the week with her family). Also, and I haven’t mentioned this before because it might sound weird, and plus it might give some people the wrong impression, but my ex-husband will be here. He actually spent the holidays with us last year, too, but I thought under the circumstances last year it would REALLY give the wrong impression. This is just something that, in the past year, we’ve decided works for our family. The kids get both of us, and we both get them, and everybody gets to stay here (which the kids particularly prefer, since this is their home and where their friends are and avoids extended travel to Texas). And while the first part may be true (that it sounds weird), it has worked out surprisingly well. I’ve had my ex-husband here three times in the past year. If you can get along well enough with your ex to share the holidays and share the kids, it’s a good thing for everybody. Of course, my kids are mature enough that at least they don’t get the wrong impression–it might be different with younger kids who aren’t old enough to grasp the dynamics. There will be a lot of horseback riding (in orange after Sunday), hunting, eating, and fun.
I’ve come to the conclusion that one of the good things about being an independent single woman is that I can invite my ex-husband over for the holidays and I don’t have to care what anybody thinks. I’m looking forward to all the cooking, and I’m making a big chore list for Ross, Weston, and Texas. And if it’s wrong to make chore lists for your ex-husband, I don’t want to be right!
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You are a special person to include him in your family. The world would be a better place if more people were able to do the same…you are a generous. kind, and considerate person!
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I hope your extended family has a wonderful holiday. Don’t worry about what anyone thinks or what they jump to…just enjoy your family and know that you are doing a great thing for your kids. My daughter says one of the best things about how she grew up is she never felt she had to choose one parent over the other because she always knew we were in this parenting thing together. Hugs!
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But the best part is that my opinion doesn’t matter a whit. What works for your family is the only thing that matters. It’s so freeing not to have your life dictated by what someone else might think is weird.
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Texas will be able to spend some quality man time with Ross and Weston digging that trench at the spring!
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He brought his fiancee to my aunt and introduced her.She welcomed her with open arms and they became great friends.
When they got married, they took two of the kids to raise, and my aunt kept one.
My aunt and first cousin left the house for a week so the newlyweds could have a honeymoon.They stayed until they got a home of their own.
They had five children, and my aunt helped with all of them, including sometimes paying their rent and buying groceries.
The two families were always very close.
The only time my wonderful aunt got angry with me was when I referred to the other wife as her wife in law.
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Have a Blessed Day.
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I am still on friendly term with him 30 years later. All so much better than acrimony.
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I just wish we didn’t live 2000 miles away.
Have fun with your family this Thanksgiving!
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Happy Thanksgiving to you all
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Have a wonderful, fulfilling, and happy holiday weekend.