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10:20 pm
January 1, 2010
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good evening from the farm, It is with a heavy heart tonite that I post that my husband, Norm lost his battle with stage 4 bladder cancer Tuesday nite. Tomorrow is the viewing and the funeral will be on Saturday. i'm still in shock, I can hardly believe it yet. Our family never gave up on him and tried different concoctions on him in attempt to stop the cancer. I'm sitting here in this lonely farmhouse wondering what is in store for me. We just moved to his parent's farmhouse 7 years ago and we have been restoring the old house. My husband was so happy to be back at his childhood home and we had alot of plans for the old house. Is there anyone on here that is a widow like me and is trying to cope with everything? thanks- Alanna
10:45 pm
February 8, 2009
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I am so sorry to hear this Alanna. Will be thinking of you through the weekend and beyond.
{{{{HUGS}}}} from WV……
dede
11:23 pm
August 30, 2008
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I am so sorry. Saying prayers for you, Alanna.
11:45 pm
June 1, 2010
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just this afternoon I was wondering. . . You know you've done your best and I'm sure that Norm was comforted by your family's presence. Surely the last few years in his parents house brought him happiness and peace. Will be keeping you in my prayers. My thought is not to try to cope with everything…just what has to be dome today. And, when people say, "Just let me know if there's anything I can do." Take them up on it.
12:28 am
February 22, 2010
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So sorry. Praying for you and yours. I am asking God to send someone into your life who has gone thru this so they can share their journey with you. An understanding heart is such a comfort.
3:14 am
May 10, 2010
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Alanna, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you weather this storm. I am not a widow, but I did go through the heart wrenching pain of watching a loved one struggle with this horrible disease. I helped my mother take care of her mother as she battled met. lung cancer. Then 7 years later, cared for my mother as she developed the same disease. There is not much I can say that will erase your pain, that will only take time. However, please know that we are all here for you and will gladly be the anchor to keep you steady and the rock for you to lean on in your time of need. Just know that you are not alone, we are all here for you.
7:59 am
November 9, 2010
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I am so sorry to hear this, you and your family will be in my thoughts. Just as Sonia said we are all here for you. Sometimes I have found it is easier to take comfort with strangers in a time like this. From reading what you have said over the past posts I know Norm was well cared for and loved, I hope that will bring you comfort right now.
8:15 am
April 3, 2011
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I'm so sorry about your husband, Alanna. I will be praying for you!
8:38 am
February 10, 2009
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Alanna said:
My husband was so happy to be back at his childhood home and we had alot of plans for the old house.
I'm so sorry to hear that Norm lost his battle, but this ^ is the part of your post that I focused on. He was happy, and enjoying the restoration and being 'home' with you. That's what was good to hear for me in this post full of bad news.
Lot's of deep breaths, and when people offer help, accept it. Giving a friend a bit of your load is a gift from you to them, I learned this from someone when we were grieving at my mother's death. It's a big relief to both of you when you say "You know, I really could use some help with…" It gives you both a focus which keeps you from drifting too much. After some time, the need will be reduced, but your friendships will have benefited and believe me that's a very good thing. I think this is something from years gone by that we've lost a bit. Everyone is too worried about 'intruding', when what we really all need is a little more intrusion at times. (not all the time, but a little is good)
Enough soap-boxing from me now, I'll be praying for you and for your circle of friends which will be lending you support and strength now that you are feeling adrift.
8:59 am
February 6, 2011
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I'm so sorry, Alanna. From what I hear from other widows, the next week or so will be full of support from family and friends. But when they go home, make sure to call on us for support. I'll be praying for you, that the Lord will comfort you in a way that only He can.
9:44 am
May 6, 2010
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Sending you lots of hugs
9:51 am
August 24, 2010
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langela said:
I'm so sorry, Alanna. From what I hear from other widows, the next week or so will be full of support from family and friends. But when they go home, make sure to call on us for support. I'll be praying for you, that the Lord will comfort you in a way that only He can.
A well spoken word. I will keep you in my prayers Alanna, that God my cover you with His grace, and ease your pain. Hugs. Jackie
10:00 am
October 10, 2009
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Alanna please accept my condolences. Continue to pray that God will keep his loving arms about you and comfort you during this most difficult of all times.
10:24 am
September 20, 2010
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Alanna, I am so sorry to hear about your beloved Norm, as Buckeye girl said, please focus on the fact that Norm was where he was happy in the Farm House, its comforting to know he was where he wanted to be. These next few days and weeks will be difficult, and as others have said, ask family members and friends for help and support. When you get through this difficult period the next few weeks, there might be some grief support groups available, not sure if you had Hospice helping you through this, but they could refer you to some support groups. I wish I had taken advantage of this when I lost my Mom and Sister to cancer. My heart goes out to you and please know that God does have his loving arms around you as mamawolf has said. We are all here for you Alanna, you are in our thoughts and prayers.
10:29 am
March 13, 2011
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Alanna, I am so sorry you have lost you husband. I'm sure he was your best friend and a support/mainstay in your life, but lean on God and allow Him to hold you up now. My prayers are for you and your family.
10:37 am
June 12, 2011
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I am so so so sorry to hear this! I have been praying for you guys, and will continue to.
12:26 pm
June 2, 2010
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Alanna,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. How fortunate that Norm was able to do what he loved in the home that he loved. May you know that others care about you and wish you peace. Don't hesitate to share with us. A burden shared is easier to carry.
May you find the peace that passes all understanding.
Kellyb
1:09 pm
October 30, 2009
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My deepest sympathies, Alanna.
I hope your happy memories of Norm in your farm house with help ease your grief.
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