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I rarely post photos of myself on my blog–for a couple of reasons. One (main reason) is that I never ever never like a picture of myself. Two, I’m usually the one taking the pictures. IT’S MY CAMERA, PEOPLE. One time Morgan wanted to take my camera up the hill to take pictures of something and I made her get her backpack, fill it up with clothes, and tuck my camera down in the middle of it for protection in case she slipped or something. I’m freakish about people touching my camera! I mean, who will take care of it like I do, who??? Even I should do a better job. There’s usually mud on it. Sometimes cookie dough…. I DON’T DESERVE TO TOUCH MY OWN CAMERA!!
Okay, enough of that, back to me.
In the beginning (and for a long time), I had (a cropped and smaller version of) this picture posted in my sidebar:

It was taken two years ago. People have been complaining about it. The other day, someone said it looked as if I was looking out from under a horse’s tail. Someone else told me I needed to do my roots. (Thank you for your concern. You’ll be glad to know that I stopped highlighting my hair a long time ago so that root problem no longer exists. I’m a farmer. I don’t have time for hair highlighting. Or money for hair highlighting.) Mostly, I think people wanted/expected me to look like this (a still taken from my SAM-e contest video, which was shot in November):

I don’t really like this picture, though. A still from a video means I was in the middle of talking when the still was taken and I just look weird. Yet everyone I’ve shown it to likes it better than the new picture that I just put in my sidebar, this one (which was taken several days ago):

I was pretty much satisfied with this one as far as pictures of me go. And that would have been the end of the story, but then someone told me that picture MAKES ME LOOK OLD.
WHAT?!
I think I look pretty freaking good for 92, so back off.
Okay, I’m not 92. I’m 24. Sheesh, I do look bad for 24, don’t I?
Okay, okay, I’m 45. (Honesty is such an unimaginative policy.)
So I dragged this child out into the snow yesterday to take pictures of me. Which meant I had to let her touch my camera and everything.

I don’t think she’s taking this whole thing seriously enough, do you? Come on, MORGAN.

You’re too far away, MORGAN. Come closer, my child.

That’s okay. It could be cropped down to something semi-decent in sidebar size….

But wait, there’s more!
Here are your choices–including the one in the sidebar right now but NOT including the one that was there before (too much hatin’ on that one!) and not the one from the video because I don’t like that one at all. Poll below–you get to pick which photo goes in my sidebar. (I KNOW. Could this post be more ridiculous?) Other than Photo #1, which was taken several days ago, these were all taken yesterday within a short period of time. The differences are in lighting and angle.
Photo #1. (The current photo in my sidebar.)
Photo #2.
Photo #3.
Photo #4.
Photo #5.
Vote! And forever hold your peace. And I will forever hold my obsessing. And the same picture is going to stay in my sidebar until I really am 92.
NOW GIVE ME BACK MY CAMERA, MORGAN!
Note to add: Since #2 seems so popular…. I worked on it to get the yellow out that a few people mentioned. Here is a less yellow version (feel free to comment on which version like best):

(I like Photo #4 best. NOT trying to sway the vote or anything….)
Second note: I put this “compromise” version of #2 in my sidebar. (Crop not quite so close, which was freaking me out on that one for some reason.) FOR NOW! If the vote swings another direction, I’ll change it. But it seems pretty overwhelming so far. And NO ONE is voting for #1, so I might as well get rid of that fugly thing!

Someone asked in the comments if I’ve been wearing my hair like this since high school so I’m going to post this old photo just for kicks. This photo was taken when Morgan was a baby, so I was about 31. (She is almost 14 now–will turn 14 in about two weeks.) I wore my hair in a similar style to this throughout my teens and 20s, and until my late 30s. I always had bangs, parted my hair on the side, and had it styled in layers, sometimes longer than this pic, but never much shorter. DO NOT DIE LAUGHING FROM THE MAKEUP. I used to wear way too much makeup. (In case you don’t even recognize me, I’m the one holding the baby!)

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I agree with Leah, I think 2 is a nice photo, it is just what I would have thought you would look like had I had not seen a pictue of you before, your personality really shines through.
As to the remark about you looking older than your age and as to your hair,– REALLY! I was a hair stylist fo 30 years, and I think your hair is lovely.
I dont think you look your age at all, If I looked at the second photo, I would guess middle twenties maybe, or perhaps Morgan’s older sister. We should all be so lucky. Must be that good ole mountain air, hard work and the people your surround your self with.
When you get to be 92, update your picture and we will vote again, but until then—-.
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I just noticed the ring on your left hand,—anything I missed?
JO
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I did vote #2, love the picture
But, I have not had any problem with any of your pictures !
Have a good one !!!!
I do love to see pictures of you, your family, animals, house, scenery, etc. Keep em coming!!!
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I like them all, they look very natural.
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*ahem*
But seriously?
ANYWAY, I think all of your pictures would have worked out just fine. As for favorites, I voted number 3–I like the kinda coy angle (I now see I was in a crazy minority with that one) but number 2 was my second choice.
What’s the story with the woolly worms?
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I did vote for #2. But it was a hard choice all the pics including the orginial one are all very nice.
Suzanne some people are just jelous of you. You are very pretty and you do not need make up or new hair styles. You like who you are and that is what is important. There are people who can not accept that in other people because they cant not feel good about thelmselves so they have to point out other peoples small and unimportant flaws I guess. Do not change a thing about you. You are wonderful just as you are.
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but since the subject is out there….
I voted for number two…
Now lets go back to you Do Debbie stuff….are you going to make a quilt or what….LOL
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Number 2 is my favorite because of the lighting and it’s the most natural pic.
Not many of us like pictures of ourselves, do we? I really do like the pic from the video, perhaps because it shows your sweet smile and looks very natural. In fact, I enjoyed the whole video. It was fun to see you among your dear animal friends.
We love you just as you are, Suzanne, so don’t change on account of us
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We love you No matter what you look like! I love the new pics! I can see your beautiful face! I too live on a farm and some days only the goats, sheep and longhorns see me but I do get my hair highlighted and styled every 3 months… It makes me feel good.
I just round up all my purchases in my check book one dollar and then I have enough to pay for my hair style!
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and I read on some photog blog…..a picture taken from up above will give the most flattering photo.
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That said, because you asked us to choose, I chose #2 also. But it really doesn’t matter to me – you are lovely in all of them.
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You have this beautiful long wavy hair, but I think it gets in the way of your pretty face and it looks like you’re hiding behind it. If I may suggest, try pulling it back but not in a severe way–just to open up your face/self a little bit more. One other thing is the angle of the photos. In many of them (the old one) your head it tipped down and you’re looking up with your eyes which is not an attractive pose as it makes your eyes look small. I love the tilted head shot–looks very open and friendly.
Just my 2 cents worth… thanks for your blog and sharing your experiences.
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http://chickensintheroad.com/blog/about-me/
I’ll post whichever one you all pick in the sidebar, though! I’m game!
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And, I love your hair!
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Me and you – lets be the lawbreakers!
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~Randy
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We want to see your nice face! I liked number 2 because your face is brighter in that one. Very nice.
Don’t be afraid to come in front of the camera more(speaking from a scaredy cat)! It is nice to see our friend in a pic every now and then!
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I love your look because you look natural, lovely and free-spirited!
As far as the pics go, it was hard to decide…..I voted for #2. I’m not sure why I like it the best.
I love you no matter what picture you have up!
(p.s. I like the picture you changed to currently, but just to let you know….when I see it out of the corner of my eye I think it’s a picture of Jesus…
I’m not kidding!
I think it’s the hair coming down straight on both sides that does it.
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Sorry to go on & on. And I agree…you are VERY brave to literally put your face out there for comments from US! =)
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I also would like to know how you stay so slim?????
Love your blog …. I read it at work cause I too live out in the boonies where there is no high speed internet connection. The first thing I do when I come in to work is “catch up” on your blog from the weekend!
Keep up the great job!
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Smiles (from a chick whose sidebar picture is from my wedding, 10 years ago and I ain’t ever lookin’ better then that.)
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Maybe it’s that mountain air, or hard work…I wish I had whatever it is!
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It looks like sunset to me and that is my favorite time of day to shoot pictures, I love the golden glow.
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Nancy in Iowa
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don’t you love the snow today?
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I don’t like anyone using my cameras (and have very few pics of me). Our children are really into taking pictures lately so I’ve been a little less stingy and letting them use mine sometimes. My 9 year old is pretty good at it, but my 5 year old likes to take close ups of cat fur, dog fur, the ceiling, etc. lol
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So for me 2 or 4 will do.
Deffinately golden hair. It defines you. Dnt let go of it however hard anyone tells you to …………..
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I always hate photos of myself so I understand this entirely. That’s why I only have a childhood picture of myself on mine.
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Did the two of you have a “hippie” marriage in the farmyard that only counts in your hearts, but not in the eyes of the law? Ahhhhh, now that sounds like the life of a romance writer!!! If you ever want to share, we’d love to hear more…if there is a story!
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I was torn between #2 and #5, then I decided I like #5 best, and voted, only to find that most went with #2.
I love your wild mop of hair. I have the same wild mop only really curly. I love your hair, I love my hair. I really do have to do something with mine though. I work in an office, so it sort of does matter how mine looks. I usually put it up for work, but at home I leave it down and wild.
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From one photographer to another.
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Blessings from Ohio…
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Ok, I really do like your site and enjoy the letters you send. I lived on your type of farm for 20 years but I had guine hens, turkeys, horses and of course 7 cats and three dogs. I sure do miss it.
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then I like #5 you have that “look” that says “dont you wonder what I have been up too?”
I too HATE having my pic taken and am the “keeper of the camera”…
I find the pics of myself I “like” are when I’m not looking directly at the camera (someone taking my pic when Im not looking)
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As for this vanity issue .. I have to say that years and years and years ago when I first became a river guide the thing that I loved most about all the OTHER girl river guides was their lack of vanity. Up in the morning, washed face, brushed teeth, braided hair, pony tail, cap or bandana .. and they were ready for the day. They were tan, fit, confident and BEAUTIFUL. They never, ever looked in a mirror. Eventually I stopped taking one too. I have to say .. it’s a beautiful feeling just going with what you’ve got, being clean & healthy and fogettahbout all that other stuff. ESPECIALLY if you’re a farmer/river guide/confident tree-huggin chick!
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I have to say I used to hate pictures of myself. I’ve gotten over that. (as you can see on facebook if you go to my photos) I just thought, ya know I’m me… take me or leave me.
I must say I’m a bit taken aback by some of the comments. I don’t think you look old. I would never tell you to color, highlight, or cut your hair. Coloring your hair costs money which is something you’re very frugal with. If *you* don’t want highlights any longer.. let them grow out! What else are you supposed to do?? You like your hair long (as do I)… then keep it long! I think what we see is what makes you… you. You’re not that same chick with the nails and bangs and baby on her hip. You’re better.
I love Suzanne they way she is. I think she’s a gorgeous lady inside and out.
Don’t change a thing!!!
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I like the close cropped version of #2, but I really think you should ignore all of our comments and just go with the one that YOU like best.
I do think it is pretty amazing that, as of this moment, 930 people have voted for their favorite photo, and 118 people (now 119 with this one!) have felt strongly enough to a comment. What a solid base of followers (but we already knew that, didn’t we?)!
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I like your long hair. I LOVE long hair and am growing mine out long too. I wrote a blog post on how to grow it long and how to keep it healthy when it gets there. It might be of interest to you. It’s here:
http://providence-acres.blogspot.com/
Perhaps you should braid it to keep it healthy and protected from the elements, since you are outside all the time. Just don’t wear an elastic in it. That’s not good for it either.
I think you are very pretty! A real healthy farm girl!
I voted for #4. Its more natural and jaunty looking.
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I would think that the people who see you everyday would have the best idea of which one looks most natural.
How about purple highlights? Don’t you think you’d like purple highlights?
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Ok when I click on the link for the bloggies I get your new goat when I tried to vote for # 2 which is the best of the worst but there are NONE with your great face and that DARN Hair out of it I get a note that I have already voted. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr You have a great face don’t be afraid to show it!
Affectionately,
Ruth
(Hoping she can’t blog me from reading her blog
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At 56, I too am “too old” (so my mama told me some years ago)to have long hair. I really don’t give a fig. I don’t have the money to pay to have it cut, colored and styled. It grows over 3/4″ a month and I’m too busy being a single mom and taking care of my kids to expend money I just DON’T have, on changing my looks. I am who I am and I’ve learned to be happy with that, gray hair and all. Perhaps if I had more resources, I would choose to color it, but right now I don’t. And I can either choose to be upset at “life” or I can choose to accept the situation I find myself in and be happy with all that I DO have, while striving to improve our situation.
There are people out there who have no idea that “only $20″ is a fortune to some of us and that “only $20″ is the difference between basic food on the table and starving; or shoes on a growing child’s feet. While “rounding up” can work for many people, there is a level where that just doesn’t work. And that level is when every penny is already spoken for in the budget. When it’s ALL spoken for, every penny thoroughly examined, every purchase has had to pass the “is this REALLY a Necessity, or just a Want test, then there are no more tricks to making do – so you do without. And you can be a martyr with a poor-me attitude or a survivor with a “can do” attitude.
We’re survivors and we can do anything we put our minds to do. And we choose to be happy because it’s SO much more fun than being grumpy and unhappy all the time. Cathy Can-do is so much more fun to be around than Debbie Downer ever can be. We may not have a lot of material things to give our kids, but we CAN give them fun and happy memories. We can give them a pleasant environment where love abounds and people take care of each other in which to grow up. And I think that in the end, our kids will be found to be the “richest” of them all.
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And big points to you for posting the old picture! Mine are under lock and key — as they should be. But a question…do you ever pull your hair back?
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But…. I think you should have her retake these, with more light, from the snow, from the sun, anything. These are all sooooo dark, which casts too many shadows, makes you one-dimensional, no glow. It makes you look tired, and it makes the photo less interesting… and you my dear are a VERY interesting person!
I think that’s why people like the SAM-e photo… because there is actual LIGHT in it, so that there are highlights and shadows. Warmth. It has very little to do with your expression, you always have an interesting, warm, authentic expression.
Speaking of warmth, these are not too yellow, I don’t think, but too green, and that’s not flattering for blondes with fair skin and cheekbones. I think many of the shadows come from your hair. I wish you would push it away from your face a little, so that we can actually SEE you!
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I take pictures for the sake of my grandaughter, even though I have 10 chins. lol I want her to be able to remember me when my time comes.
I am getting more used to seeing myself in photos. Most of the time I still don’t like them, but at least the urge to tear them up had diminished. lol
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I love #2 and #4, but I voted for #4.
You are gorgeous inside and out!
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My Mother used to yell at me to “get that scraggly mess of hair out of your face” daily when I looked exactly like you do. I wanted long hair to be cool but it sure wasn’t cool in the summer as thick as it was. It was, however, something to hide behind which is what I think you are really doing (maybe unconsciously). Easy to take care of, yes, but not really. I’ve tried to garden in the hot summer with it sticking to your neck and arms—doesn’t work. I’ve tried to watch football games in the wind—doesn’t work. I’ve tried mixing up cookies with it hanging down my arms—doesn’t work. I certainly hope you pull it back in a pony tail when trying to do those things, especially in the kitchen or around machinery.
I also know why you “look up” in all your pictures. You think it will make your nose look smaller. And it does, but the problem is that the part in the middle of your hair draws the eye directly down to your nose. Win/lose situation. We all think you are a beautiful person and are all trying to give constructive criticism because we care. Boy, you would have a hey day criticising my pictures!! NO WAY!
Peace and Love (still an old hippie at heart)
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And to be even more honest – short of the lighting in each picture they all look exactly the same to me. Same angle, same hair, darn near same smile [I think your mouth curled up a bit in one] but really what are we voting on?
You are a lovely woman with many fans/readers – I wouldn’t worry about what people think you should post as your picture.
You seem very confident and happy in your own skin – why be concerned with which of the same [4] pictures we like?
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I can not believe someone would give bad comments about your picture! There is nothing wrong with any of them!
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I love seeing the great pics. Love the chickens!!! Thanks for sharing!!!! Stay warm!
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Also, I totally get the wash and go hair thing, I also have that unruly mermaid wavy hair thing, so I usually just tie mine up and forget about it. But maybe, just for this! maybe give it just a tick more love than usual for the photos? I’m thinking just a little smoothing fluid, just a bit, only because wash and go doesn’t read like wash and go on photos. Cameras are jerks. They misinterpret everything!
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I think Suzanne looks fantastic, and doesn’t need to change a thing. But things just read differently in a photo and you actually have to work harder to get a photo to be an accurate representation of you in everyday life. That’s just the way it is.
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GOOD GRIEF!!!!! talking about opening a can of worms–we could open a bait store on this one! I have never left a comment that is critical to anyones comment, but some of them are a bit over the top on this subject.—
I thought the topic was basically to “choose your favorite picture,” it sort of went from that to hair style, hair color camera lighting, and how to use the camera!!
I wonder, are these the same floks that leave comments about how good they feel after reading your posts?? They need to think of your feeling too.
I didnt reconize a lot of the names, but I can tell you this, the majority of your readers are happy with any picture that you may choose to put on your sight, It was, however, nice of you to ask everyones opinion—personally, I don care if you have a chicken sitting on top of your head, I read your post for its content, which we all of us enjoy, not to critique your picture in the side bar. Choose the picure you are happy with and PLEASE dont ask any opinions on changing it until you are at least 92.
Thank you.
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Oh–forgive me, but I cant let this one pass—this MARMY person–are you for real??? We need to send you a book on manners, not that you could read it!! Do you have a blog site, and are using this name to leave nastyness on other peoples blogs because you are jealous?
SHAME ON YOU—but wait—people like you have no shame. I feel sorry for you.You are a puddle of pity to say things such as this.
I agree with Myra completly.
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You should check out the issue of Goldenseal magazine from last summer. There is a nice feature in it about some back to land people from the 1970s.
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Have a great weekend, and enjoy the snow
Big HUG,
Amber Lynn
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I picked number 2, won’t nitpick, just glad to know what you look like! That is what makes your blog so nice. You are open and friendly, post your name and photo freely, and it would be great to just drop in and play with the goats. On the other blogs that I was forced to look at when voting for you, you can’t even find who wrote it. So they must be ashamed of their work, don’t you think.
I guess close to 20 years in Texas is why I have to put make-up on to go to the feed store!! LOL
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1. I like #2 but the original that wasn’t cropped. It is so cute.
2. I can’t believe anyone EVER commented about your appearance before they were asked. It’s not good manners, people!
3. It’s not about appearance, is it?
4. You are a brave woman, Suzanne. I would block anyone who wrote something unflattering about ME!
5. I like to see pictures of you.
Thanks
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What I really want to know, though, is WHAT’S UP WITH THAT RING!?
(Just kidding.
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I picked #2 but the only thing I think might help a little is if you soften the color of your lips with a little lighter color. I love your naturalness, if that’s a word. You know what I mean.
Love ya anyway,
Tonya
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You seem beautiful without a picture though Hun.
I stumbled on here in a Google search for tips on a big-pot-a-beans…I absolutely love it.
(the website.. your beans are nearly identical to mine already)
In fact after checking out the site my wife and I have decided we want to be your neighbor. If not that then the neighbor of someone like you ;-)..lol.
Have a great day!
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…somebody slap that lowlife…seriously what a freakin’ LOSER.
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I believe that you are a beautiful person inside and out and whatever picture you chose will be just fine. To the ones that said something about your roots and that you were looking out from under a horses tail….well that’s just RUDE!
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Those of you who are saying that, don’t you realize how RUDE you are being? What if someone told you that your short hair makes you look old and dumpy? How would you feel? Personally, I believe women should have long hair. Do I ever tell anyone that? Not only NO, but HECK no! My mother raised me better than that!
Hair, makeup, clothes, are all personal choices. It’s no one’s business to be making comments. Readers, just pick what photo you like and keep the personal comments to yourself.
Mel (I am female)
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you’re so darn funny…what does it matter about your hair???
I am just like that, tho. I don’t like pictures of me, especially ones taken unawares. Yikes…at least give me the chance to smile and pick my face up…
I have finally decided to heck with it…I yam who I yam, and that’s all that I yam…
I could spend hours reading your funny farm posts…
Love your blog..
glenda
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