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Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
June 26, 2010
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lifeisgood/ Melinda
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Ya’ll would be so proud of me today! (okay, I’m from the South…ya’ll is acceptable English). This weekend is the Peach festival here. Kind of a big county fair only we have parishes not counties. Vendors, games, crafts, and lots of good food. I left the house a wreck…..drove to town (well, got feed first for animals at feed store)  and then I WENT TO THE FESTIVAL! okay, it was hotter than hades den but my baby girl and her bf had made homemade peach ice cream all week and froze it in cups with lids and rented a sno cone machine and had fresh peaches (her bf is opening a produce place…im proud of them both) anywayyyyy…they sold 113 cups of homemade ice cream today and 50 something yesterday evening and I don’t know how many sno cones and bottled water and peaches, but the point is it was FUN, okay, it was hot, but it was funThey made some money, I got to enjoy my girls (all three of my girls helped-31, 25, 19) and I didn’t think about a single darn dust bunny! And you know what else??? I’m not going to worry about dust bunnies tomorrow either! I’m going to go to church with my girls and sons if the sons will get moving early enough and then go see Toy Story 3 with my hubby and THEN go to youngest daughters for a belated fathers day dinner.  All I needed was permission to not try to be perfect! Ridiculous, I know, but sometimes I just need a good kick in the pants!

Thanks for all of your input, suggestions, and just flat out telling me to “dont sweat the small stuff!”

June 26, 2010
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Oh my.  Sometimes it seems like I live in squeaky wheel mode, which is close to Suzanne’s ‘putting out fires.’  Some days I have to close my eyes, take a deep breath, and do a reality check.  Lots of those lately since I’m still on restrictions from a recent surgery.  I see everything that needs done, that I want to do, and it bugs me.

So, deep breath.  Remember the priorities.  It’ll all work out fine, right?

June 26, 2010
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My theory is, that tomorrow the dust bunnies will still be under the dining room table, the dishes will still be in the sink, the laundry in the basket, and the spots on the floor, but watching  that once in a lifetime sunset, playing with the kids or grandkids, talking with my elderly neighbor, spending the day watching my sister sleep for hours after her chemo session are things that I might not ever get to do again, so I agree with the rest of you. Life is too short  to fret over the inmaterial things. LONG LIVE THE DUST BUNNIESpink-rabbitpink-rabbit

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June 28, 2010
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mommafox said:

My theory is, that tomorrow the dust bunnies will still be under the dining room table, the dishes will still be in the sink, the laundry in the basket, and the spots on the floor, but watching  that once in a lifetime sunset, playing with the kids or grandkids, talking with my elderly neighbor, spending the day watching my sister sleep for hours after her chemo session are things that I might not ever get to do again, so I agree with the rest of you. Life is too short  to fret over the inmaterial things. LONG LIVE THE DUST BUNNIESpink-rabbitpink-rabbit


 

Amen! sun2

 

And Melinda, Good for you for giving yourself permission to enjoy your life! shimmy

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June 28, 2010
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Sounds like a day worth spending with your girls! Your time with them is more important than anything else. It goes by so quickly and they’re grown and gone and you wish you could go back in time and do it again, differently. Take advantage of the time you have with them now.

My daughter is 26, long moved out and I only see her 2-3 times/year if I’m lucky. I miss her and I would gladly leave all the work here to spend a day with her.

My floor is presently covered with dirt, real dirt form the garden. We had an emergency break in the dog’s electronic fence that took two days to figure out and fix. Nothing got done and we tracked garden dirt all over the house. The tools and wire are still where we dropped them in the middle of two rooms. The tub is still coated with the dirt we left behind last night. We were both just way too tired to do anything about it.

I was too busy today taking pup to vets for final shots, picking peas, grocery shopping and making dinner today to clean it up. I managed to sweep up the worst of the dirt and rinse out the worst of the tub dirt, but that’s all. You know what? I DON”T CARE!

I’d much rather sit here and read and relax for a minute than clean that up. It’ll wait until tomorrow.

I still have clean laundry to put away, peas to shell and process, a floor to clean, a bathroom to clean, the dog wire to staple to stakes (we’re not burying the new section), two gallons of flower wine waiting to put on, lunches to make for tomorrow, grass a foot high, a garden desperately needing the hoe and a painting to finish.

I am still sitting here reading and chatting. It’ll all wait until another day.

I start a new part time job tomorrow…

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June 28, 2010
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My counters are covered in every kind of squash imaginable. I have about 8 sacks of cucumbers from the garden to pickle, & the green beans are in too, so there’s canning to do too. On top of a full time job & every day house work. PLUS a sick dog, 2 biddies with spraddle leg, and 2 hens dead from the heat in the last 3 days. I’m worn slap out, but I can’t stop just now, except for an occasional break.  Overwhelmed doesn’t even touch what I’m feeling this week. But I’ll muddle through & it’ll be over before I know it.  happy-feet

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June 28, 2010
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June 28, 2010
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And I cheated today.

I baked bread and made a cheese.

My oldest is graduating Wednesday…and when I was in town with him…I ordered the buns…and ordered a cake.

Then I walked to the store across the street from the bakery and ordered a fruit plate.

By doing this, I took a bunch of stress away, no baking tomorrow, just cleaning the house and preparing the meat to on the buns for Wednesday.

So no home prepared food for the guests..oh well, they know I can do it..just didn’t do it this week.

Hubby was so proud of me happy-flowerhappy-flower

June 29, 2010
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It takes a lot to organize all that–good for you!  Congratulations on your boy graduating and to you for taking the steps to enjoy the party.  What is the point of having the party if you are going to be in the kitchen the whole time anyway???!!  Hopefully the weather is going to be nice. . .fingers crossed for you!!sun2

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June 29, 2010
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Yes and last week was one of those weeks.  It got to the point I sat down on the front porch steps, put my face in my hands, started crying and said to my husband, “Sometimes I don’t even want to live on a farm!”  Then two seconds later I said “Nevermind, I didn’t mean that.”  But there are times when I feel that way.  Chores pile up, the kids get sick, the garden is being taken over by weeds, there’s ball games, Bible school, birthday parties, mowing….and milking, there’s always milking and I work 3 -4 hours a day from home!  My husband is a big help but he works all day so I try to get done what I can so he doesn’t have to do it when he gets home.  I have to step back from time to time, take a look around around and say nobody’s going to die if that doesn’t get done today or even next week and then I take the time to do something I want to do, not something I have to do.  Then I start all over with the have to’s the next day.

I often have to remind myself of my granny’s favorite saying, “If it doesn’t get done today, it will wait until tomorrow and if you aren’t here to do it tomorrow, you won’t care anyway!”

I miss her so much!

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June 29, 2010
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It’s nice to know we are all in this together hughug

June 29, 2010
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All.  The.  Time.  Having a messy house and sticky floors is very frustrating to me.  I feel so much calmer when I can actually see my counter tops!  Unfortunately, with two small kids, a part time job and a husband who just dumps and doesn’t pick up, I don’t see my counter tops as often as I like.  I have days where I just want to scream!  I know I need to work on just standing back and saying, “It can be messy for a few days.  Nobody but you really cares.”  But there is always that nagging little voice in my head that keeps me glancing over my shoulder looking at the spots on the mirror or the crumbs on the floor.  My husbands grandmother says that dust is a protective layer for the furniture. yes  I must admit that dusting is the one thing that I am not so obsessive about.  I just obsess about everything else!

 

I keep waiting for the house fairy to come and clean my house while I sleep.  I have been waiting a very long time and she has never shown up! censored  I think it’s about time I get my money back!  hissy-fit 

June 29, 2010
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Maybe if we had more grandmothers to go to when we get overwhelmed life wouldn’t be so stressful. I miss my grandmother too. She’s been gone 30 years.

June 30, 2010
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I have a new outlook on life-  my auntie has a book titled “Life is too short to fold your underwear”.  Enjoy each day, and until the dust bunnies get the size of Coco, don’t let them ruin your day!!!

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June 30, 2010
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I’m going with Flatlander this week.  We’re having a few people for a 4th of July BBQ and I’m letting them bring dishes…..usually I say, no, we’re treating you.  I’m hoping to be relaxed and enjoy their company.  yes

June 30, 2010
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I’ve felt a little rebuffed at times when I’m going to a good friends’ house for a dinner or such and they don’t ‘want’ me to bring something… not offended or hurt exactly, but when having friends over, consider that by letting them bring a dish, perhaps a salad you know is special, or a desert they have perfected, you are both paying them a compliment and giving them the gift of allowing them to help.

That sounds a little pompous doesn’t it?  I don’t mean it to…  and at times it may be best to just do it yourself.  Only consider though how good it would make some people feel to hear that something they make is highly thought of, or that they could contribute to an event.  There are times when accepting help is actually giving a gift of sorts.

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June 30, 2010
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BuckeyeGirl said:

I’ve felt a little rebuffed at times when I’m going to a good friends’ house for a dinner or such and they don’t ‘want’ me to bring something… not offended or hurt exactly, but when having friends over, consider that by letting them bring a dish, perhaps a salad you know is special, or a desert they have perfected, you are both paying them a compliment and giving them the gift of allowing them to help.

That sounds a little pompous doesn’t it?  I don’t mean it to…  and at times it may be best to just do it yourself.  Only consider though how good it would make some people feel to hear that something they make is highly thought of, or that they could contribute to an event.  There are times when accepting help is actually giving a gift of sorts.


 

So true.  It’s hard sometimes not to do it all ourselves, but like you said, we shouldn’t always deny someone the chance to be a blessing either.  We may not like to ask for help, but when it’s offered there in nothing wrong in accepting it and giving someone the pleasure of serving.

July 1, 2010
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blueberrylu, AMEN to that!  People do like to help and love to feel needed or want to contribute.  I found this quote in a book I am reading and I think it fit’s here.  Its by an American writer and Trappist monk Thomas Merton he once asked “What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves?”  The writer in the book goes on to say “Ignorng our own needs restricts our potential for personal growth, damages our self-esteem, and limits our capacity to become happier, more fulfilled human beings.  So this being said those of us who are overwelmed with life’s commitments need to take a break and do somthing for ourselves, even if its only for 15 minutes, I sometimes play a little game with myself, I will check out Chickens in the Road for 15 minutes and then I will go back to what ever chore I was working on.  I know its hard for us to take that time, but when you do you will feel so much better.  Lot’s of hug’sladybug

July 1, 2010
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KentuckyFarmGirl said:

I often have to remind myself of my granny’s favorite saying, “If it doesn’t get done today, it will wait until tomorrow and if you aren’t here to do it tomorrow, you won’t care anyway!”

I miss her so much!


 

I like your granny’s saying!

 

I noticed that I’m not the only one with a husband that doesn’t really help out. I think we should just tell them that if they don’t start picking up after themselves and helping out, then we’re going to hire a maid and they can pay for it! lolyes

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July 1, 2010
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BuckeyeGirl said:

I’ve felt a little rebuffed at times when I’m going to a good friends’ house for a dinner or such and they don’t ‘want’ me to bring something… not offended or hurt exactly, but when having friends over, consider that by letting them bring a dish, perhaps a salad you know is special, or a desert they have perfected, you are both paying them a compliment and giving them the gift of allowing them to help.

That sounds a little pompous doesn’t it?  I don’t mean it to…  and at times it may be best to just do it yourself.  Only consider though how good it would make some people feel to hear that something they make is highly thought of, or that they could contribute to an event.  There are times when accepting help is actually giving a gift of sorts.


 

You know, that’s a really good point!  No, I didn’t think pompous.  I usually invite folks for supper as a treat, thinking “well, she won;t have to cook.”  There aren’t many places nearby here to eat out anyway!  But, you’re right; friends have their special dishes and it makes for an easy prep for all of us.  Thank you for the new perspective.

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