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Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
July 20, 2010
1:08 pm
Rural Montana
Super Chicken
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oh Becky, I'm sorry……

July 20, 2010
2:21 pm
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Glad you're having a break for a little while Becky, I hope when they get back, you are able to bring up a few of these points and get a little more cooperation from them. 

I doubt you mind helping with things like doctors appointments since it's so important, and hopefully your DIL will be equally willing to help with more of the household tasks too.  It's not about pay-back after all, it's about sharing the load. 


For that matter, your DS can sit with his foot up and fold laundry!  It may not be exactly the way you normally fold it, but folded is folded and every little bit helps!

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July 20, 2010
5:20 pm
Thomson, GA
Big Chicken
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I don't ask them to do a lot, just keep their bathroom clean, cook supper once in a great while (when it is something my son can cook cause the DIL does NOT cook. I tried to teach her and my son but she is lazy and let my son do it all) and clean up after themselves.

When they come back we are going to have a talk though. I cleaned their bathroom when they left, the DIL only cleaned the sink, apparently she is too good to clean the toilet (sigh), and before they left my coffee table seemed to be the the depository for all the dirty baby bottles, baby wipes, towels etc. Not going to happen again. DIL has a whole bunch of baby stuff she was trying to sell, well, it didn't sell and she sends me an email and asks me to take it all to the Salvatiion Army if I don't mind. Well, I MIND! They can take it themselves when they get here.

They already wash their own clothes, I see no reason why they can't cook their own meals and wash their own dishes. Time for two people to grow up some.

July 20, 2010
5:52 pm
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Definitely sounds like it's time for a little tough love.  The best of luck—-you are only doing them, especially DIL a huge favor by making them be responsible.

July 20, 2010
6:58 pm
Rose H
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Becky, my heart goes out to you.hug 

Your DIL needs a good kick in the pants I'm afraid.poke   If she is old enough to be a parent, then she is quite old enough to be responsible and look after her family.  Tough love is a necessity here for your peace of mind – after all IT IS YOUR  HOME.  Make the rules quite plain when they return.warrior Until then make the most of your quiet time yes

If it's got tyres or testicles it's trouble.

July 20, 2010
9:07 pm
lifeisgood/ Melinda
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And I thought I had it bad…..


No offense meant and I hope none taken, but it's time to make those two grow the heck up! It's one thing to help your kids out. Quite another for them to take advantage of the situation and act as though they are still teens and expect you to take care of them.

I would type out some household rules and tell them this is the way it is going to be and that you love them but you are neither the maid nor the cook. 

I have been fortunate, even with mine coming and going that (other than the teen son) the rest did their share while under my roof. (And he's coming around). I simply let his laundry pile up in his room and the trash pile up and didnt feed him for a while and EUREKA he learned how to do it himself (well the room and laundry…..I still feed him).

Kids, even grown ones, will take advantage if you let them. They can reason it away a million ways but the fact is even if your daughter in law cant hear…..there are ways around that…..even if your son is hurt….his hands still function. They are just using excuses because they KNOW you will take care of it for them if they don't do it.

Good luck. And don't let them use MOm as a doormat!! You are at a point in life where you should be able to enjoy some of your time and not have to be chief cook, bottle washer, maid and taxi service.

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