A Good Mother

Jul
17

Earlier this week, my mother, who was 81, passed away unexpectedly in Texas. I’m in Texas now. I had some posts stacked up, so I ran them because I wasn’t ready to talk about what had happened yet. I had prepared some posts ahead to give myself time to work on another project. Funny how sometimes you don’t know what you are really preparing for. I’m out of posts now. I’ll be gone for several more days. My mother’s funeral was yesterday in Fort Worth, and today she is being buried in San Antonio. Weston and Morgan were already in Texas with their dad. They are coming home with me early. I flew here, but Weston is bringing back a vehicle for his senior year, so we’ll be driving. (It’s a long drive and not one I was expecting to be making.) I’ll try to keep the Daily Farm Photo page updated on our trip as I can.

My mother loved birds.

And her grandchildren.

Not in that order.

She was a teacher, a writer, a businesswoman, an amazing cook, a devoted wife, and a sweet mother. She was also an avid reader. She loved romance novels, and gave me my first romance novel. After I became a published romance novelist, I took her with me to booksignings and Romance Writers of America conferences and Harlequin parties. Nora Roberts was one of her favorite authors, and I enjoyed being able to introduce her to Nora at a Harlequin party in Dallas one year. My mother was my biggest fan, no matter what I did. She never said a critical word to me in her life. She didn’t really know how to use a computer, but she got one so she could see my blog every day. She could hardly figure out how to send an email (she frequently sent me blank emails or emails cut off in the middle of a sentence because she never could figure out where to click), but she knew how to get to my blog. Every day.

She could also shake her thing and she was quite the preacher’s wife with the way she wiggled her hips down that church aisle every Sunday. (I could never say that about her when she was reading my blog because it would have embarrassed her. Some of my most vivid memories of her as a child is how she shook her thing with a natural exuberance about herself that she couldn’t contain. Even in church. She had it going on.) She loved jewelry and makeup and fashion, and most of all, she enjoyed keeping herself fit and looking good. She grew up poor on a farm and she embraced city life with both arms. She loved to entertain and she enjoyed fine things without placing them above what was real. She had taste and a soft heart.

My mother was 16 when she met my father on a double date. They weren’t dating each other. Pretty soon, though, they were. I suspect there was some hip-wiggling involved. My father was stationed at a base in Oklahoma following his missions in World War II, and that’s how a farm boy from West Virginia met a farm girl in Oklahoma. They eloped when she was still 16 and he took her away from the flat lands to the hills of West Virginia where she learned to make Grandmother Bread from my father’s mother–and one day taught it to me. They lived all over the United States, from Washington, D.C. to California, and traveled across Europe. She had four children, two of them early in her life, and one died at 13. She had two more children later in life, after that tragedy–and one of them was me. I was her youngest child, and her favorite. Or so she always told me. And if she ever told anyone different, I don’t want to hear about it.

She had a beautiful voice and she loved to sing in church–and anywhere else. She sang in the kitchen all the time.

But most of all, she loved her grandchildren. (And my children have no grandparents other than my parents.) She was a wonderful grandmother. Morgan was her only granddaughter, and she enjoyed showering her with girly things and taking her to lunch and shopping and the beauty salon. When Morgan was 18 months old, my mother commissioned a porcelain doll made in her image and dressed it in one of Morgan’s baby dresses. (I’m NOT making that up!) She loved all of her many grandsons just as much, but she only had one granddaughter and they had an extraordinarily close relationship. Even after we moved away from Texas, Morgan continued to spend a great deal of time with her every summer. Morgan was with her when she was taken to the hospital.

I know someone will ask about Ross because he is in boot camp. My mother had already bought her plane ticket for his graduation. We were all going together–me, my mother, Weston, and Morgan. He was only allowed to put down four names to be allowed in. After some investigation, we came to the conclusion that it was highly unlikely (and against normal policy) that Ross would be allowed to leave boot camp for her funeral (grandparents do not fall under the military definition of immediate family), so his father and I decided to not tell him so that he won’t have to handle the news alone while he’s already under so much pressure. He knows she was coming to his graduation and I will be the one standing there when he says, where is she? (Please think of me for that moment.)

I will be back as soon as I can.

P.S. My mother, who loved my blog, would have loved this post. Except for the part about Ross’s graduation, which she would have found devastating. And the hip-wiggling. My mother loved every word I ever wrote, and told me so all the time. If your mother can’t give you a big head, no one can. I have had one of the most important things you can have in life–a good mother.

Comments

  1. Jersey Lady says:

    Oh,Suzanne,my deepest sympathy to you and your family on the passing of your mom. What a lovely tribute you wrote to her! The best gift the older generation can give to the younger is to be a good example. You mom did that for sure.

  2. Jennifer Robin says:

    Oh, Suzanne. I lost my mom not too long ago; she also loved to sing. My dad missed our son’s wedding because he was burying her. Boy, do I know how you feel, and don’t envy you the moment Ross asks where she is. I hope it helps to know that there are sure to be lot’s of extra someones thinking of you.

  3. Glenie says:

    So sorry for your loss. Thank God for good mothers. Mine has been gone for 3 years now. I still love and miss her.

  4. WolfWalker says:

    So sorry for your loss.

  5. Nancy in Iowa says:

    I am so sorry, Suzanne. Last night I almost asked when the kids were coming home from Texas. It’s so very hard to lose our mothers, but she’ll always be there with you, in the smiles on your children’s faces, in the mirror, and in your heart. My kindest regards to all your family.

  6. KentuckyFarmGirl says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

  7. anna redish says:

    so sorry Suzanne,
    you are in our thoughts, and prayers
    Anni in toronto

  8. Laurel in Kingsport TN says:

    I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your greatest fan, your mom. You are so fortunate to have had such a wonderful woman and example in your life. I pray for peace for you and your family. You are a wonderful writer and I’m thankful to have found your blog.

    Laurel in Kingsport

  9. Miss Becky says:

    I love your beautiful description of who your mother was as a person. She sounds like she had many sides and really knew herself well. I love that you would get blank emails from her, and that she enjoyed keeping herself fit and looking good. She is absolutely gorgeous in that photo. And look at that blouse! Love it.
    You did have one of the most important things in life a person can have, and you are most certainly all the better for it. And your children too. Suzanne, may peace be with you. :hug:

  10. Nancy says:

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I remember thinking, when my mother died, that it’s sad that almost everyone has to go through this pain. It’s the way it is supposed to be. Our parents die before us. I think it changes us. Especially for women. My mother was “from whence I came”. I felt lost. Adrift. But is wasn’t long before I could feel her presence. She wasn’t really gone. She’s still near. So is your Mom. And she always will be. The day will come when you will laugh ~ because you’ll know with certainty that your mother is behind something that just happened…

    ((((((Big hugs))))))

  11. leavesofthefall says:

    Thinking of you during this difficult time. May you find peace in the memories.

  12. Moi says:

    I am so, so terribly sorry.

  13. Michelle says:

    What an incredibly loving tribute to a woman who was obviously incredibly loving. I’m so sorry for your devastating loss — and can’t imagine being in your shoes when you have to tell Ross….

  14. Shelly says:

    So sorry. I am feeling so sad for you right now. I am sure a flood of memories are coming up in you right now. Sounds like you had a very loving mother. Hang in there, you have a beautiful family! :heart:

  15. Annie says:

    So sorry to hear about your loss. I have lost both my parents
    (my dad first about 15 years ago and my mom 6 years ago). I still feel like an orphan even now and miss them dearly. I too was blessed with good parents…you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  16. Anna Adams says:

    Suzanne,

    I am so sorry. I pray that your memories will bring you peace.

    Hugs to you and yours,

    Anna

  17. Susan says:

    I am so sorry. I know you will miss her.

  18. Melinda says:

    That was a beautiful tribute to your mother. I am at a loss for more words other than to say you were blessed to have such a wonderful mother and I am so sorry she was called home early. I will keep your family in my prayers. I know your Mom was proud of you and the children and I hope your wonderful memories of her ease your pain in the coming days.

  19. Kelly Walker says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It’s so hard to loose your mom. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please have a safe trip home.

  20. Maureen says:

    That was a beautiful post and I am so sorry for your loss.

  21. princessvanessa says:

    Words alone cannot express my sympathy; I am in tears thinking of your pain. Please take good care of yourself (and your children).

  22. Darlene says:

    My family and I are so sorry for your loss. Our hearts and prayers are with you and your loved ones.

  23. Gayle says:

    You and yours are in my heart and prayers. {{{}}}

  24. Lisa says:

    I’m so sorry, prayers for you and your family.

  25. Laura B. in Greenwood, IN says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for your lose. It is a strong person who can write about losing such an amazing person so soon after their passing. I think you and Ross’ dad made the right decision in not telling him right away. He may be a big and bad navy guy but it obviously will break his heart when he hears the news. I think your mother would have wanted it that way though.
    You and your family have become part of my family and I want you to know that we are thinking of you. Drive safely, you are in our prayers.

  26. Celia Allen says:

    :fairy: Beautiful, beautiful words written about your mom.
    My mother has been gone many years but one never forgets….memories serve us all well. I can’t see mayflowers in the spring time without thinking of her and I’m sure everytime you see a colorful bird it’ll bring memories of your mom.

    Mrs. Turkey

  27. Connie Rogers says:

    Oh Suzanne I am so sorry to hear the news of your mother’s passing.Hugs to everyone..

  28. Tovah says:

    I am so sorry to hear this. Prayers for your family during this difficult time.

  29. Lisa says:

    Suzanne, I’m so very sorry to hear about your mom. That picture of her and her grandchildren is the one I think of when you mention your mom.

  30. shirley says:

    Please accept my deepest sympathy on the passing of your beautiful mother.I am so very sorry.

  31. Johanna says:

    What a lovely remembrance of your mother. The photo shows that sparkle in her eye — you can see that she was full of life. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that the when you say it was unexpected that means it was quick for her. So much kinder that way, even if it’s harder for the survivors.

    You take your time getting back to us. We’ll all be here when you do.

  32. Snapper says:

    Oh Suzanne, I am so sorry to read about the loss of your dear mother. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  33. Sandra in SC says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother sounds like a fabulous woman. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  34. Mary Ann says:

    Deepest sympathies on the loss of your mother Suzanne. May you find comfort and peace.

  35. Jane says:

    Great tribute to your Mother. When your mother dies- there is nothing else like it really – especially if you have had a good experience – now you get to carry that forward. It is sure hot here in Texas!!!! I am ready for fall and it is only July. Hope you all drink lots of water in Ft. Worth and San Antonio. I think we are in the 100s again today. I am North of Dallas now and a little East.

  36. dkyoung says:

    Suzanne, my heart goes out to you. Like you, I lost my mother earlier this week. What a wonderful woman she was – kind, caring, wise, as beautiful inside as she was outside, a true lady. I always thought that poets who wrote about mothers had used my mom as their inspiration. She was the center of our family and we will miss her so much. You and I were both blessed to have had these incredible women as our mothers. Deanna

  37. Tammy says:

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, will be praying for you to have the strength to tell Ross and to comfort him when that time comes. Both my parents are gone so I know how you feel right now. Just keep praying and God will comfort you.

  38. Shannon says:

    ((((Suzanne)))) I’m sorry hun. You are in my thoughts and I will be sending you strength when you visit Ross.

  39. Linda says:

    *hugs* You have my sincere condolences. Take the time you need and don’t worry about posting. I’ll be here when you get back. :heart:

  40. Diane says:

    So sorry to hear about your mother. Your story just brought tears to my eyes. The picture of your parents and the kids is wonderful. Just reading how you are going to tell Ross about his grandmother put such a sad picture in my mind. I know its going to be hard for you to have to wait. But its for the best for him now. You are a good mom just like your mom was. No wonder you were her favorite.

  41. Teresa from Lancaster, PA says:

    Aw, Suzanne. I am sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. My Mom was my biggest fan, too. She’s been gone 11 years – at age 62. I still miss her, but am so thankful to have had more than Mom, but one of my best friends. Your Mom has left you a wonderful heritage. May God bless and encourage your soul during this time.

  42. Becky says:

    Oh Suzanne, I am so sorry to hear your mother has died. There are no words to make it any better so I will refrain from the cliches. Just know that I am keeping you and your whole family in my prayers.

  43. Sue Nugent says:

    It is hard to know just what to say when anyone looses one so close.Many times I read or hear those words, from friends, and you just stay silent for a while. You feel their pain, and no words, can really suffice, at a time of loss, but just know you are in my thoughts. I have lost my Dad. It hurts for a long time,but the wonderful memories will remain forever.

  44. SkippyMom says:

    What a lovely tribute Suzanne. Sending you good thoughts and prayers. Take care.

  45. Teri says:

    Thoughts and prayers are with you.

  46. sirje says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your mother sounds like she was a really amazing person, and the love and strength she brought to you and your family, and which flowed between you all, is really powerful and inspiring. Thinking of you.

  47. Leah says:

    I’m glad you were blessed with a good mother Suzanne.As some of the others said she will always be a part of you,your children,grandchildren to come. Someday we will see our loved ones that have gone on before us again. Thinking of you,Leah

  48. floreksa says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your mom sounds like a fantastic person to know and love.

  49. Kelly Myers says:

    My condolences, hugs and love to you Suzanne. I am praying for you and your children and your dad.

    Your tribute to your mom was wonderful. The last sentence your wrote was the best and could have stood on its own! You mom was right! You are a wonderful writer.

    ((((Suzanne))))

    P.S. Sending safe thoughts your way as you travel home. Drive with care, take your time and know you are loved!

  50. Kay says:

    What a touching tribute to your mom. So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  51. Maggie says:

    Read you daily – have never posted here before. You have my deepest sympathy. My mom died in 2002 and she was also a Good Mother. I hope my mom is on the welcoming committee for yours.

  52. kellyb says:

    Suzanne,

    A lovely tribute to your mother. My heart aches for you and your children. May the thoughts and prayers that are being showered on you give you comfort and peace.

  53. Peggy says:

    My heart and prayers go out to you Suzanne. Your Mother sounds like she was a special woman and that is to be cherished by all. Maybe an extra hug from your readers for your children and especially for you will comfort everyone at this time.

  54. Julie Curtis says:

    Suzanne, I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom. My mother passed away in 1995 and I still miss her daily. Time heals the hurt, but her memory lives on and I think of her every day. Nobody loves you like your Mama.

  55. Anke says:

    Suzanne, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your Mom sounds like she was a wonderful, caring and fun person and you all must miss her terribly. May time and love bring you peace, you’re in our thoughts and prayers.
    Wishing you strength when you talk to Ross.

  56. Jenny says:

    I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. We’re facing the loss of my grandmother right now in our family and it’s just hard on everyone all around. Your family will be in our thoughts.
    ~Jenny~

  57. Charlene says:

    Dear Suzanne,
    I’m so sorry for your loss, for you, your children and your father. My heart goes out to all of you. My mother died 18 months ago, 2 months after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. There is no other love more precious than a mother’s love. Your mother sounds like a delightful woman and you were so blessed to have been her daughter. I will be thinking of you and remembering you, all of you, in my prayers.

  58. Tammy says:

    Oh Suzanne, I’m so sorry for your loss…

  59. Carmi says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. I am glad that you have lots of great memories.

  60. Tracey In Paradise,Pa. says:

    How lucky and blessed you were with such a wonderful mother! Find comfort in your memories. A giant hug to you good friend!!
    Love to you & your family!!
    Granny Trace

  61. mrkittysmom says:

    A beautiful tribute – and your mother would have loved it….I read something the other day and printed it out and put it up on my wall in front of my lap top:
    ” How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard”.

  62. CATRAY44 says:

    I am so sorry, Suzanne. I will be praying for you, your dad and your kids.

  63. Amelia says:

    Remembering the pleasant memories makes this loss of your Mother easier…she was a Godly woman and is now with Jesus in Heaven. We must all consider out future and be prepared.

  64. Michelle Willingham says:

    Suzanne–my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hugs! 😥

  65. ulli says:

    I’m so sorry, Suzanne and Family, for the loss of your dear mother and grandmother. Keep her memories close, and may they help you through your grief, and bring you joy as you celebrate the life she lived.

  66. Yankee Gal says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you Suzanne. What a touching tribute to your Mom. Wishing you a safe trip back across country with your kids.

  67. blueberrylu says:

    Oh……my heart goes out to you Suzanne. Prayers for you and your family during this sad time. :hug:

  68. Mary Kellogg says:

    Suzanne, losing my mother was the single hardest thing I’ve ever gone though. Things will never, ever, ever be the same for you. My mom has been gone a year and I still wish she could scoop me up and take me to where ever she is. She was the ONLY person who really, truly loved and cared for me. I’m so alone now without her.

    Your mama instilled many wonderful qualities in you. I can tell by the way you live your life and let us live your life along side you by way of your blog.

    Your mama must of been one great gal.

    Bless your heart.

  69. Victoria says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss and your post was a lovely tribute to an obviously lovely Mom.

  70. Carmen C. says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful mother, I hope you are able to find some bit of comfort in all your wonderful memories ((BIG HUGS)) to you sweetie, Keeping you & your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take all the time you need to get through this, we will all be here when you return to your blog.

  71. Stacy says:

    I am so sorry Suzanne. Your mother sounded like an amazing woman and I am so glad you have so many wonderful memories. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers.

  72. M.J. says:

    Suzanne–
    I didn’t expect to be beginning this day with tears in my eyes. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful, very personal tribute to your mother. From what you’ve written, she would have loved it. I know the profound sense of loss that comes at this time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers today.

  73. Lisa says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers. :hug:

  74. ladybird1959 says:

    Suzanne,

    I am so sorry to hear that your mother passed away. The loss of a mother is one of the biggest losses you will have in your lifetime. I lost my mother at the age of 12 and have missed her every day for the last 38 1/2 years. Thank God you’ve had yours as long as you have and were able to share the many blessings with her. You and your family will be in my prayers, especially poor Ross when you have to stand before him and explain that his grandmother is no longer with you. I cry as I write this. My mother never knew her grandchildren or great grandchildren. You were surely blessed to have your mother for so many years and were able to share many wonderful things with her. Praying you have a safe trip home.

  75. Carol says:

    I will be thinking of you.

  76. Teri says:

    my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time for you and your kids. My daughter was also close to my mom when she died. She was 14 (my daughter). It’s very rough for an adult to lose that relationship and extremely tough on a child.

  77. Holly says:

    What a glorious tribute to a beautiful woman. Our prayers are with you and your family.

  78. Christine says:

    I am so sorry for your loss, Suzanne. Please pass on my condolences to your children as well.

  79. Valerie says:

    Dearest Suzanne, I am so very sorry for your loss. You have written a beautiful heartfelt tribute to your wonderful mother. Please know that we will be with you in spirit when you have to tell Ross the sad news.

  80. Rachel from Maine says:

    Suzanne,

    I can’t say anything that will take the pain away or that doesn’t sound trite and over used. But please know that you have a league of readers that ache with sympathy for you. I will be thinking of you everyday and I hope that somehow that will allow you to keep going and be able to find comfort and happiness in the little things that life offers us daily.

    Take good care of yourself,
    Rachel from Maine

  81. Patty says:

    So sorry for your loss, and what a beautiful post about your mother! Safe travels home and may God bless all of you as you walk through this difficult time of mourning for such a special woman.

  82. Mary says:

    What a beautiful tribute, Suzanne. Your mother was so proud of you and the way you are using your talent for writing. You have been such a gift to her. I am so sorry for your loss.

  83. mommafox says:

    I am so sorry for the passing of your Mom. I lost my Mom when I w as only 15, and looking back, she instilled many things in my life that I was not aware of at the time. Like the pleasure of seeing sparkling white clothes flapping on the clothesline, the beauty of rows of colorful jars of fruits and vegetables on the kitchen table, the pride of designing and sewing clothes for me and my kids and most important the ability to love and cherish my family and respect those around me and earn their respect in return. So glad you were able to have her in your life. Keep passing all those wonderful traits on to your beautiful children. My sympathy and Love to you and yours.

  84. Becky says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry to read of this.
    You and your family are in my prayers. And I’m sending up an extra prayer for Ross.
    Peace be with you ALL.

  85. Sarah in Sanford says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I have a wonderful mother also and can’t imagine a day when she will no longer be here with me. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  86. Joycee says:

    Suzanne, I’m so sorry to hear of your Mother’s passing. What a life she lived, touching so many with her kind ways. Some people in our lives “sparkle,” shine with God’s love and grace. Your Mother definately was a sparkler. Keeping you and your family is my prayers.

  87. Amy Manwell says:

    Suzanne,

    You have my deepest sympathies for your loss. How blessed you were and are to have such a wonderful mother. My heart goes out to you and your family.

  88. Cynthia Stinson says:

    She sounds like a wonderful person. I would have loved to have met her. God bless you and your family. I’ll be thinking of you and hoping that you all will be able to take comfort from each other. I know she is looking down on you and smiling.

  89. Annette says:

    Suzanne, So Sorry to hear about your Mother’s passing. You and your entire family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  90. Kim Gibson says:

    I am so sorry for your loss, Suzanne. It sounds like your mother had a good life, and will be well remembered. You are a good daughter, and a good mother. I will be praying for you now and when you tell Ross. It was a good decision, loving and selfless. God bless you.

  91. Karen Templeton says:

    So many hugs, Suzanne. It’s never easy. But what a blessing to have such a wonderful mom who left you with so many fabulous memories.

    Lots of love coming your way.

  92. Deborah R says:

    I’m so very sorry for your loss.

  93. Molly says:

    Thinking about you and your family.

  94. Lisa says:

    We (my family) are very sorry for your loss. I lost my father last year and it is not an easy event to get through. Healing thoughts and good vibes your way.

  95. Linda Goble says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know how difficult it can be. I loss my Mom 19 years a go this day. I also lost my best friend 1 year ago yesterday. I know it takes time to heal. You will have your wonderful memories that you will cherish forever. If I could give you a hug I would. You are a great person and it looks like you got that from your Mom and Dad. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Have a safe trip back home.

  96. Beth says:

    I am so sorry for your family’s loss, you are all in my prayers. I’ve been on the receiving end of late bad news, and there is no easy way to do it. I know it will hurt Ross to find out later, but you’re right, he wouldn’t be allowed to do anything but find out, and boot camp is not a good place to deal with loss. I think knowing that you thought so hard about it and made a painful decision out of love will help a lot. Many hugs.

  97. Donna says:

    You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers, Suzanne! We understand all too well the pain of missing mom and grandma. Take care, and drive safe on your way home!

  98. tsmith says:

    Hugs, hugs and more hugs.

  99. Senta Sandberg says:

    Bless you Suzanne my heart hurts for you and your family especially Ross right now. Please take a break from us we will love you more for it.

  100. sam says:

    How blessed you were to have had such a fabulous woman in your life.

  101. Denise says:

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful mother. May God be with you and your family during this difficult time, and may you find peace and comfort in all the wonderful years youhad together. As I was reading your post, tears were streaming down my face. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  102. Phyllis says:

    My prayers and thoughts are with you.

  103. Alice says:

    Suzanne, I am so very sorry that you’ve lost your mom. It is wonderful that you were so special to each other. She would have loved what you wrote, hip-wiggling and all. A big hug to you.

  104. Rose says:

    My heart goes out to you.

  105. Cheryl in Michigan says:

    So sorry for your loss. My prayers go out for you and your family.

  106. WKF says:

    My heart breaks for you and your family. That was a wonderful post to your mother. God Blessed you Suzanne.

  107. maude says:

    thinking of you – this next year will be difficult.

  108. Denise :) says:

    Susan, I’m so very sorry. Your mom sounds like a marvelous, wonderful person. I’m so glad you have fun and happy memories to help sustain you as you grieve. I’m praying for you and your family. *hugs* :sheep:

  109. Sue Mraz says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for you loss! Having just lost my mother a few months ago I couldn’t make it through your blog with out tears of remembrance. Your words were incredible and made me think about all the wonderful times I had with my mother. God bless you all!

  110. Brenda E says:

    I am so sorry Suzanne – I can relate to how you feel. I shed tears for you in your grief but things will get better, memories will always remain and the love you have will never die for each other.

  111. glenda says:

    Suzanne, what a lovely tribute to her! I hope my children will be able they had a Good Mother. I know I can say that about mine. She thought I could do anything and told me so on a regular basis….the only person in my life who ever did that. I miss her still.

    This has caused me to reflect………and cry.

  112. MMHONEY says:

    THE PATTERN OF LIFE
    If the pattern of life looks dark to you
    And the threads seem twisted and queer,
    To the one who is planning the whole design,
    It’s perfectly plain and clear.

    For it’s all part of God’s plan,
    When He works in His threads of gray,
    And they’ll only make brighter the rose and gold
    Of another happier day.

    Hide this in your heart. I can’t say more.

  113. Norma Jean says:

    Suzanne, You’re tribute to your Mom was so wonderful. How great it is you had so many years and have so many memories with you Mother. How is your Dad doing? Know that all your fans are sending you plenty of hugs and sympathy, and it’s going to be hard on all of you when you see Ross. You are in the thoughts and prayers of many people all over the world. Give the kids an extra hug for all of us.

  114. Donna Mc says:

    ((((((((Hugs))))))) I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is sooo incredibly hard. I still miss my dear Daddy. Your tribute to your dear mama was lovely. I felt like I almost knew her from your wonderful words. Treasure your wonderful memories. Keep her memory alive by talking about her, sharing stories of her life, and passing down her words of wisdom…especially to Morgan.

    Mourning is a difficult time. I was surprised at how it affected me in unexpected ways. Take your time & work your way through it in your own way. Lean on the Lord for strength & comfort. We’ll be praying for y’all.
    Donna Mc
    GA

  115. EightPondFarm says:

    Suzanne, deepest sympathies on the unexpected loss of your Mom. Your post is an absolutely beautiful tribute to someone who sounds like an absolutely beautiful person.

  116. LeAnn says:

    Thank God for good mommas. What a beautiful tribute to your mother, it brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that you and your family will be comforted in the days to come.

  117. Lori Skoog says:

    Suzanne…of course you have my deepest sympathy. Your Mom sounds like she was one very special person. As a grandmother, I can’t tell you how sweet it has been to spend time with one of our grandaughters recently. What a beautiful post.

  118. Carol says:

    Suzanne, so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to her. My Mother’s been gone for a long time but I would love nothing better than to sit down and enjoy a cup of coffee with her and talk about all kinds of things.
    Carol

  119. stefinity says:

    Suzanne what a beautiful tribute to your mother. Your words so easily show us what a wonderful mother she was. I am literally crying for you and your family. May God be with you and give you peace at this difficult time. (And you deserve to take some time off — for the next week or so, just post some old pictures or something… your devoted readers all understand) :heart:

  120. Cin says:

    My heart goes out to you. Take care.

  121. Cheryl says:

    Oh Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss. This is such a marvelous tribute to her. I will be praying for your family, especially at your son’s graduation. She was a beautiful woman, and you look just like her.

  122. Rose H says:

    Suzanne, I’m truly sorry for your loss and send my sincere condolences to you and your family.
    Your tribute is beautiful, and you have lovely memories to treasure. Be assured that I too will be thinking of you when the time comes to tell Ross.

    :hug: Rose H

  123. Sue says:

    I’m so sorry Suzanne.

  124. Helen Baldwin says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your mother, especially since it was unexpected.

    I am so glad, though, that you have introduced her to us! You certainly did have a good mother! I am also blessed with a mother who thinks my brother and I can do no wrong, and as I was the only granddaughter on that side of the family, I enjoyed a special relationship with my grandmother, too.

    Many hugs and prayers are headed your way from North Carolina (formerly of Fort Worth!), especially as you attend the graduation. I have a feeling your mom will let her presence be known….

    ‘Lucy’

  125. IowaCowgirl says:

    Please accept my sympathy in your mother’s passing. She obviously was an extraordinary woman who passed on that trait to you.

  126. Gini says:

    Oh Suzanne. 🙁 I’m really glad you and your mom had such a wonderful relationship. You made her incredibly happy and she knew you loved her. That’s all we can really ask. I’m very sorry.

  127. Martha says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your tribute to your mother was heart-touching and expressed how blessed you are to have had such a wonderful devoted mother. I lost my mother..really my aunt who loving reared me after my daddy’s death when I was seven…in 1985. Never a day goes by that I don’t think of her and miss her so very much but the sweet memories sustain me as yours will sustain you.

  128. Sandy says:

    Sorry for your loss.

  129. Lisa W says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. As I am reading your post I can’t quit the tears from falling. Losing my mom was the hardest thing that my kids and I have gone through ever, no words to describe this. My heart breaks for and your family . You and your family are in our prayers.

  130. auntie julie says:

    What a blessing to have had such a mother….and how blessed she was to have such a daughter.

  131. Cindy says:

    Suzanne, I lost my mom in February 2009, a month or so before I found your blog. She would have LOVED it, as she wanted so badly to have a little farm with goats and chickens. We knew she was leaving us, because she had a rare and aggressive cancer, and we kids and one grandkid (My oldest, Erin), helped when she was on hospice. I miss her still. Her leaving me left a huge hole in the universe, and in my heart. I kept a journal when she was on hospice, and it’s just now that I can read it without crying. I’m saying all that to say, “I understand. I can’t know exactly what you’re feeling, of course, but I know how hard it is.”

    I think you’re right not to tell Ross. When my son was in Afghanistan, the mother of his best friend was murdered by her husband, and I decided not to tell him. He was under enough stress. When he came back he handled it well.

  132. Joely says:

    Hugs, hugs, hugs. You and your family are in my prayers.

  133. kellyrgreen says:

    I love your blog so much and have never posted a comment, but I just wanted to express my dearest sympathy. Your talented writing makes me feel like I know you, and I’m sitting here sobbing because your loss. I send you sympathy, love and strength. Especially for telling Ross. Dwell on the happy memories!

  134. Heidi says:

    Oh Suzanne, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad almost 9 years ago and I still miss him just as much now as I did then, maybe more.

  135. Stephanie in Seattle says:

    I haven’t cried this hard in a while. What a beautiful post about a wonderful mother. Sending love to you and your family.

  136. Julia says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. And then to have to make such a difficult decision about telling Ross. My heart goes out to you and your family.

    Thank you for telling us, and thank you for reassuring us about the animal care. Don’t worry about the blog for right now. We will understand if you can’t post any new entries for a while. Take care of yourself and your children.

  137. Lisa P in California says:

    Your mother sounds like a wonderful, vibrant, loving woman. How fortunate for you to have known her and to have been loved by her. I pray for strength and peace for you and for amazing strength when you deal with the situation again at the graduation. Remember, you are a strong woman like she was and you will be able to handle this.

  138. marymac says:

    I am so , so sorry for your loss Suzanne. I know what it is to loose your parents. My mom was first and then my dad 7 years later. Life is a journey, from beginning to end. Your faith will see you through the hard times . We all love you here and I think all of us feel like we know you personally, because you have brought so much of your life to share with us. You are in all of our thoughts at this time. God Bless you and your family.

  139. Linda in New Mexico says:

    please accept our heartfelt condolences. You and your children were truly blessed to have had a good mother and good grandmother. Blessings on you all.

  140. Blyss says:

    My heart, sympathy, strength and prayers to you and yours! Your mother was a great example of a wonderful woman, and obviously passed it down to you and your kids. *hugs*

  141. Tammy says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Please give Morgan an extra big hug too.

  142. Tina says:

    My Air Force dad said they would, contact your recruiter to be sure though, as long as he was willing to start over again.

  143. G says:

    I am so sorry for your loss, and for your chldren’s loss as well.

    I only ever had one grandmother and 17 years later, the tears are still rolling as I think of her. How much worse must the loss of a mother be.But how wonderful that you had such a close and loving and respectful relationship.

  144. Lisa says:

    Suzanne,

    I am so sorry. Words can not express what a hug can. I wish I could give you a hug. We’ll pray for you, and all your kids during Ross’s graduation. :hug:

    Lisa

  145. Gena says:

    While you never get over the loss of a parent, bearing it will become easier with time.Thank you for your beautifully written and touching tribute to your mother. Thinking of you.

  146. Cindy says:

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. She sounds like a very special lady. *Hugs*

  147. su says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your post was a beautiful tribute.
    I lost my mom a few years back, and like you, I was the baby, with a big gap between first & last born, so we had that special relationship too. I hope Morgan is doing OK. I’m sure this has been very hard on her, being there when the problem started.

    Hugs & prayers to you all. :hug:

  148. gen@scarletacres says:

    Your mother, and childrens grandmother, sounds absolutely marvelous. What a touching description. {{{hugs}}}

  149. LisaAJB says:

    You’re right. A good mother is a very important thing. And it seems like your wonderful mother has helped you become a good mother yourself. Take your time grieving and don’t worry about posting in the blog. We’ll still be here when you’re ready to get back to work. :hug: Thanks Suzanne!

  150. MMT says:

    So sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad 26 years ago and I still miss him, but always have the wonderful memories. My Mom is 92 and still doing well and for that I am grateful.

  151. Debbie in Memphis says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart aches for your loss. I hope that when my passing comes, my children will be able to give me that same high praise of being a “good mom”.

  152. Beth says:

    I know no words can make a difference at this moment, but my thoughts are with you at this devastating time in your life and the lives of your dear children. You already have the grand memories flowing, and that is what will help you through….until one day you can talk about her with laughter instead of tears.

  153. catslady says:

    I’m so very sorry, Suzanne. Now we know why you turned out to be such a fantastic person. You mom sounded like a wonderful person. I’m so sorry your son missed her funeral but life interferes with life and death. My mom will be 88 soon and although a bit more critcal I can’t fathom her not being here. May you remember always the happy times.

  154. Michelle (MG) Braden says:

    So very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. What a precious love you had!

  155. Laura says:

    my prayers are with you all. I’m so glad you have such good memories.

  156. Kathie says:

    So sorry for your loss.

  157. Julie says:

    You were very blessed to have called her mother and your post about her was touching. I can only imagine how delighted she was to read your blog, and your books knowing that she had a little something to do with it all having created you. I’ve wondered many times about your mother, her role in your life; being a mother, I often wonder what the mothers are like of the people I admire (I want to steal their secrets to successfully raising the kiddos!). Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I will be thinking of you as you go to Ross’ graduation. My husband is Army and we’ve missed the funerals of four grandparents (his and mine) due to military service ~ it’s hard. Praying for safe travel for you all and for strength for the days to come. :hug:

  158. Dee @ Red Dirt Ramblings says:

    I’m so sorry. A beautiful testimony to your mother’s love. I will say a prayer for you at your son’s graduation.~~Dee

  159. Lcapers says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care on your way home

  160. rileysmom says:

    I’m sorry so for your loss. May the beautiful memories of your mother ease some of your grief….

  161. Patchkat ~ Susan in TX says:

    What a lovely tribute to your Mom. Losing a Mother is hard. I lost mine almost 6 years ago (in Arlington) and I still miss her very much.

    Sending my condolences along with so many others. You and your family are in my prayers…and a special prayer for that difficult time ahead with Ross.

  162. Nona says:

    I am so sorry for your big big loss. You have such a great way with words, your mom is such a wonderful mom and friend.
    I pray for your comfort, huggs!!

  163. Jo says:

    Suzanne,
    I didn’t write this, I don’t know who did. But it makes me think of you during this time:

    God, make me brave for life:
    oh, braver than this.
    Let me straighten after pain,
    as a tree straightens after the rain,
    Shining and lovely again.
    God, make me brave for life;
    much braver than this.
    As the blown grass lifts, let me rise
    From sorrow with quiet eyes,
    Knowing Thy way is wise.
    God, make me brave, life brings
    Such blinding things.
    Help me to keep my sight;
    Help me to see aright
    That out of dark comes light.

    Praying comfort and healing for you and your family. I lost my mom when I was 24 and she was only 57. No one can ever take the place of our mothers.

    ((((((hug))))))

  164. Linda says:

    So sorry for your loss. You were truly blessed to have such a wonderful Mom. You have so many wonderful memories of her to help you through this awful time and in years to come.

  165. Chris Lusher says:

    😥 My heart is heavy and eyes filled with tears in hearing this news. Even though I do not know you personally, I feel you are family as I read your wonderful blog everyday! My sympathy and prayers go out to you and your family at this very sad time. Much Love To You Suzanne!

    Chris Lusher
    Houston, Texas 😥

  166. Nancy says:

    I am so sorry about your Mom. It sounds like she was a wonderful mother. I am sure you will miss her very much but she left you with lots of wonderful memories. I lost my Mom 4 years ago today in fact. I think of her almost everyday. Looking forward to seeing her again one day.

  167. Bev says:

    My Mom always said we have to go to make room for the new. We used to get upset with her when she said this. When returning from her funeral to her home there was a sign on the next door neighbor’s house. “It’s a Girl!” We had to smile. The things you do in life will touched by your Mother’s spirit every day. Cherish your memories and know just how much we appreciate all you bring to our daily lives. Love to you and your family, Suzanne!

  168. MiahChat says:

    Hi Suzanne. I enjoy reading your story how your mother treated and loved you. You really care for her and I understand how it feels to lose a mother. I myself had lost my mother when I was only 8 years old, the reason why my life was full of struggles during my early age. I was thankful though because I had a father at that time who did the responsibility of a father and at the same time a mother to me. But having a mother should have been more better.

    Your mother had been a good mother to you all her life. Here I extend my symphaty and I know you will always keep her good memory in your mind.

  169. heidiannie says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Suzanne. Life without your mother is like partially cloudy day- your days go on, but the sunshine is diminished.
    You have such good and clear memories to hold on to and pass on, however, that she has left you with a legacy of love and fun and individuality to share with Morgan and your boys and the families they will have someday.
    I am also a daughter of my mother’s later life- of course we were the favorites! My mom passed on 8 years ago, but I still feel her presence in my life daily.
    I’ll be praying for you.

  170. Miss Judy says:

    No matter how long we have them we are never ready to let our parents go. Even when our faith tells us they are in a better place we still want that one more hug, one more smile, one more touch. My prayers are with you and your family.

  171. Susan Knotts says:

    I was so sad to read the news of your mother’s passing. Losing anyone near and dear to you is devasting but it seems our mothers leaving us is so far reaching and deep to the core of the heart. I hope in some way you are comforted by reading the heartfelt condolences of all of us out here in cyberland. I wish you comfort and peace in the days ahead and for all in your family who loved her dearly.

  172. mary beth says:

    So sorry for your loss, Suzanne. She sounds like a wonderful woman. Prayers sent your way.

  173. kerri says:

    Suzanne, my heart goes out to you as you deal with this huge loss in your life. Losing one’s mom leaves a big hole in your heart that time will eventually soften, but I know how hard it is to begin with, especially when it happens unexpectedly.
    My prayers will be with you, especially when you must break the news to Ross.
    Your mom would love this wonderful tribute…hip wiggling and all.
    Sending you big hugs, Sweetie. Take care of yourself. :hug:

  174. boydsandthebees says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. It is so hard to lose a parent — although we are grown and parents ourselves, we expect our own parents to be there forever ~ and they are, in our hearts and minds. I’m praying for all of you through this difficult time and in the days ahead when you have to tell Ross.
    Susan

  175. marilu/victoriaTX says:

    My condolences to you and your family. You were blessed with a special Mother. She was blessed with a special daughter and grandchildren. And, she was blessed that she had her precious Morgan with her when she crossed over. Give Morgan special hugs from all the moms and grandmothers who read your blog. Prayers for you when you have to break the news to Ross. My heart goes out to you.

  176. Amy says:

    I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss! I pray for strenght for you and your family during this extremely difficult time. I’m sure your mom would have loved your tribute post too, she looks like such a fun person!

  177. Ruth says:

    What a lovely lovely tribute to your Mother, Thank you for sharing this with us. I am so sorry for your loss. What agreat picture of your folks. She was a beauty!

  178. Melanie says:

    So sorry for your loss, Suzanne. And for what you have to do at your sons graduation. : ( thinking of you. :hug:

  179. Madeline says:

    Love and prayers out to you ,Suzanne.We are not quite the same women, after MOM dies.

    My heart is sad with you.Your blog post made me feel I knew here essence!

    Blessings and Hugs–
    MADELINE in Arizona

  180. Estella says:

    So sorry for your loss.

  181. Tabitha2 says:

    Oh, Suzanne, I am so very, very sorry. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

  182. Mary says:

    My condolences to you and your family. My heart is breaking for you. I think you’re right to spare Ross the stressful news while in boot camp; your mother is now there looking out for him and helping him get through it. And she’ll be there for you when you have to give him the news.

  183. jane hill says:

    Suzanne, what a lovely tribute to your Mother! Yes, she would have been proud of you for writing this. Thanks for sharing a special moment with us. Hugs, Jane

  184. Quietstorm says:

    oh Suzanne…. I’m so sorry for your loss.
    You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

    {{{{huggs}}}}

  185. Judy says:

    My sympathy goes out to you. Take care of yourself right now – I am sure all your “followers” would want that for you.

  186. Suzanne says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. There is nothing that can take the place of a good mother, and it sounds like yours was one of the very best. I hope you can feel peace and comfort that she has moved on to a better place and that you will one day be able to see her again. What a gut-wrenching thing to have to tell Ross about… I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

  187. Jan Alexander says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. You will heal, but it is really hard. I lost my mom 2 1/2 years ago and it hasn’t been easy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids. I feel like I know your mom after this post. She must have been amazing. Thank you so much for sharing.

  188. Marianne G says:

    Suzanne, I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. It’s never easy to lose a parent, but when it happens unexpectedly, it seems it’s even worse. Much love and many prayers as you travel this uncharted road.

  189. Edie says:

    Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care. :hug:

  190. Vicki in So. CA says:

    I’m so sorry, Suzanne. You were lucky to have such a wonderful, loving mom, and your tribute to her was perfect. I’ll be thinking positive thoughts for your upcoming drive and the difficult task of telling Ross. You are an amazingly strong woman and I know you will summon just the right amount of courage and love, as well as the perfect words when the time comes.

  191. ginny beyer says:

    Suzanne, thoughts and prayers to you and your family now and in the coming days.

  192. Cheryle says:

    Suzanne, I’ve been reading every day, but never posted until today. I lost my Mother 5 years ago, but your post today made me miss her just like the day she passed. My sincere sympathies to you and the kids.

  193. LeAnn Purdy says:

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  194. Cate says:

    Suzanne, I am sorry to read about the loss of your Mother. Please know that you and your famiy are in my thoughts and prayers. Your tribute was very loving and it shows what a blessing your Mother was to those in her life. Cate

  195. Nancy says:

    I knew something had to be wrong…I guess when you read someones post faithfully you know when something is “off”. I so feel your pain…my own mother passed away on Friday, 7-9. I am so sorry Suzanne. How I wish I had your gift of writing so I too could pen such a beautiful tribute. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  196. Annegi says:

    My thoughts & prayers are with you & yours at this difficult time. You & your family truly were blessed to have had her unconditional love & support. Take plenty of time for yourself & be gentle with yourself please

  197. Maura @ Lilac Lane Cottage says:

    Oh Suzanne I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom. Poor Morgan. You were very fortunate to have such a loving mother that supported you in every way. Your kids were very fortunate to have such a wonderful Grandmother. My heart goes out to all of you at this time. I will be thinking of you at Ross’s graduation from bootcamp. All the best to you and your family….Chic

  198. kd says:

    So very sorry for your loss! You had a wonderful relationship w/your mother and that’s SO comforting to you now, I’m sure.

  199. DonnaTN says:

    Your Mom looks so cute in that family photo! I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  200. Carol Langille says:

    Suzanne, I can’t begin to tell you how very sorry I am for your loss. My own mother has been gone since 1986 and reading this terrible news brought all that grief back as if it was yesterday.
    It is a hard fact of life, no matter how wonderful life truly is, that we sometimes lose the ones that are most important to us. Thank God there is a Heaven where they live in peace and joy while they wait on us to get there.
    My thoughts, my prayers and my heart goes out to you, your children, 52, and others who loved her. We all miss you but you are needed elsewhere right now. We will be here when you get back.

  201. Cathy says:

    God Bless you sweetie!!! Thanks for sharing. I am one of the lucky ones to have had a great mother too. She will live in your heart forever.

  202. Edie says:

    So sorry for the loss of your mom. Your tribute to her is beautiful and I’m sure she is smiling down at you right now.

    I pray for you to have the strength you will need in the days ahead.

  203. Connie says:

    Suzanne, I have no words. Yours said it all— Good Mother! God Bless you all through this time.

  204. Shelly says:

    My sincere condolences.

  205. Courtney NY via KS says:

    My heart is with you and your family. This post was a lovely tribute to your mother. (((hug)))

  206. margaret rusnak says:

    God bless you and your family. So sorry for your loss.
    huggs.

  207. Mokihana says:

    Please accept my deepest condolences. Your tribute to your mom was absolutely beautiful. My mom died two years ago this month, and now I wonder if it’s not too late to write something about her on my blog. Food for thought.

    I pray that the love and closeness of people whom you hold dear, and your wonderful memories, will help you through this difficult time. :purpleflower:

  208. Dawn Carrica says:

    What a beautiful tribute to an extraordinary woman. You were indeed blessed and it seems have passed those blessings along to others.

  209. Vicki says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like an amazing woman. You should take what time you need. Best wishes when you tell your son.

  210. Betty says:

    Oh Suzanne…I am so sorry, your mother was so beautiful and what a wonderful tribute her, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, you have wonderful memories of her….hugs to you….Betty

  211. Blessings says:

    Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your Mother

    ~~HUGS~~
    from Michigan

  212. Linda Zoldoske says:

    What a wonderful woman! I am so sorry she’s gone. No matter our age, when a parent dies we are orphaned. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself angry or irritable for some time. Grief takes some surprising forms. All my sympathy.

  213. Jeanette says:

    Suzanne, please accept my condolences and warm hugs….take whatever time you need, and keep those you love most near you during this time of heartbreak and heartache, and know that those of us who love you will be here patiently awaiting your return.

    with love and sympathy,
    Jeanette in Georgia

  214. Chris says:

    I am so sorry to read about your loss. Your post about her was wonderful and it will help you all to adjust to the hole she leaves in your lives. After my mother died I had the most wonderful dreams about the two of us sitting in the kitchen and talking. I hope you have some of those moments also to help ease your pain. It will get easier.
    Hugs, Chris

  215. Sarah K says:

    My heart goes out to you. I will be thinking of you during Ross’s graduation. Take whatever time you need. Losing such a close loved one is never easy. One day at a time. Your faithful readers will still be here when you’re ready to post again. It sounds like she was an amazing person. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

  216. Grandmatotwochicks says:

    Dear Suzanne,

    My heart goes out to you and your family, this is a very hard time, many prayers for all of you. What a wonderful tribute you wrote about your Mom, I am sure she is smiling down on you.

  217. Rose says:

    Dear Suzanne, please accept my deepest sympathy. I too was fortunate to have a wonderful mother and still, after several years since she has passed, stop and think “I have to call mom and tell her about this”. Know that we are all wishing you only the best and hope that having you at his graduation will bring your son comfort too. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Your tribute to your mother was beautiful.

  218. Helen Tuggle says:

    Suzanne, May loving memories bring you comfort and peace. HelenT

  219. Carol Warham says:

    My deepest sympathies, I feel so sorry for you. Your post was a beautiful tribute to your mother. My thoughts and prayers with you, your father and the rest of your family. I will be thinking of you when you need to tell Ross. God bless.

  220. Kathryn says:

    Ah, Suzanne. Peace to all who knew and loved her. Strength for you when you do what you have to do.

  221. Cheryl S. says:

    Awww . . . hugs, Suzanne. I am so sorry for your loss. You have my sympathy and I’ll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  222. ellen mcbryde says:

    Suzanne,
    With tear in my eyes and heartfelt sympathy I express to you my sorrow on your Mother’s passing. You are very lucky to have had such a wonderful influence in your lives. The love shared by allof you shine thru in your writing.
    My Grandmother passed away Memorial Day week and my son, who is in Afghanistan, had to grieve the loss of his beloved GG from so far away. Not being able to hug my son during his grief was very hard and I will keep you in my thoughts when you go to TX for your son’s graduation…it will be tough..

  223. Sharon says:

    So sorry for your loss. Hugs to you & the family.

  224. Jane says:

    I know that your mother would be moved by what you’ve written, as I am sitting here, a stranger to both of you, with tears tracking down my cheeks. My condolences to you and your family.

  225. Rebecca says:

    Suzanne,
    So sorry to read of the loss of your mother. Your tribute is so beautiful. Prayers for you and your family.

  226. The Retired One says:

    There are no words that will comfort you at this time. I know this because I have lost both my parents over the last 10 years. I am so sorry. Please know that you have many, many people in the blogging universe that are sending you big {{hugs}} and that care about you and your family at this difficult time.

  227. Catherine Peterson says:

    Suzanne, we’ve never met but I think of you as a wonderful friend from your writing, which I love. I’m so very sorry to hear about your mother. I’ve been without my mother for some time now but always think how lucky I was to have had a happy mother. Yesterday I had a party and did the things my mother taught me to prepare and it was like she was with me. I showed my little boys how to make parfaits. My mother was born in Bartlesville, OK. Her name was Bettijo. Our mothers are always with us, Suzanne, even though it may not seem like it just now. Lots of love to you.

  228. Tammi says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother on April 5th of this year and I know how devastating it is. My prayers are with you.

  229. Melissa says:

    Oh, I am so, so sorry. Hugs to you all and especially, Morgan. I remember when my grandmother died a few years ago at age 93. All grown up, it still hurt so I can imagine Miss Morgan’s grief. You are all so blessed to have had such a wonderful, encouraging, life loving woman as your matriarch.

  230. Kathleen H in Indiana says:

    Oh Suzanne I am so very sorry. Thinking of you and your family. :hug:

  231. LK says:

    I think that your tribute was really well written. I am so glad that you were so close and that you have such wonderful memories of your mom. It is good to hear about how supportive she was…even if computer ad internet things were a difficult thing for her to grasp. I think that it is so neat that she would visit your blog every day. It sounds like it was right up her alley. Remembering the good and fun times and writing about them will help you as you deal with your loss. I will remember your family as you go to your sons graduation. That will be a hard time.

  232. Mary Ellen says:

    Suzanne, so very sorry for the loss of your mother. I know that there are no words that help now, but through your writing you have created a big family of readers who are thinking of you and pulling for you. The pain does start to ease after a while. I lost my husband in November, an accident. Take care. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  233. wildcat says:

    Suzanne, I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. Take as much time away from the blog as you need. Your readers will be right here waiting for you when you return. May God give you peace during this difficult time. Travel safely on your way back to WV.

  234. Angela Patrick says:

    Suzanne, I am typing through tears. What a beautiful tribute to your dear Mom. I’m sure she was very proud of you and would be again for this. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time and the days ahead. We, like your Mother, adore reading your posts. We will be looking forward to hearing from you when you feel ready to return.

  235. Connie of Ohio says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your post was a tribute to a beautiful woman inside and out. My sincerest condolences to your family.

  236. Carol Bellamy says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. No words can ease the pain. My heart
    and prayers go to you and your family.

  237. trish says:

    My heart is breaking for your whole family, but especially for Morgan! You have my sympathy. Thankfully, you have amazing memories to get you through!
    You wrote a wonderful tribute!

  238. Claudia says:

    Suzanne,
    I was sorry to read of your mother’s passing but I love what you wrote about her. What a beautiful vibrant person and I bet there is a party going on in heaven!

  239. Angela P says:

    :snuggle: Suzanne, Im so sorry for your loss. And again when you tell Ross. What an amazing mother and friend you have had. Your lucky. She did her best work with and in you.
    Our hearts are feeling your pain. Sending hugs and prayers to you through the miles.

  240. Wendy says:

    Suzanne,
    I am so sad for you, and so happy for you at the same time.
    I am so happy that you had a GOOD Mother; a Mother who held you and comforted you and loved you for everything-good-in-you. A Mother who was a great example of how to be an excellent Mother and a *good* person in general. A Mother who never discouraged you.
    I wish you peace and comfort in these dark days. Know that there was SO much good, and her Goodness continues… through YOU!

    I will be thinking about you and “holding you up” when you are at Ross’ graduation. Be strong. Think of Her.

    My heart goes out to you!
    =-)

  241. Sonia says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. I lost my Mother when I was in my 20’s. That was 17 years ago. She is always with me, as I am sure your’s will always be with you.

    Your tribute to your Mother was very beautiful and full of love.

  242. Lynette says:

    So. Sorry. You are in my prayers.

  243. NorthCountryGirl says:

    Bless your heart…I read your story with tears streaming down my face. I, too, lost my Mom and she was a good mother, too. May God’s peace and love be with you and your family.

  244. Patty Norton says:

    Suzanne How blessed you were to have such a loving mother. I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
    Hold on to that legacy and take care.

  245. Amber says:

    With love, my prayers are with you and your family.

  246. Dawn says:

    I’m so sorry that your mother passed away. That was a beautiful tribute to her. You and your children were so blessed to have her and her unconditional love!

  247. Nannette Turner says:

    You are lucky to have been blessed by such a great mom.

  248. Liz says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your mom sounds like a wonderful woman. I lost my mom a few months ago, and my memories of her love and kindness are something I will always cherish.

    Hugs

  249. Cyndy Buiniskis says:

    I too send hugs and prayers to you and your kids, as well as your dad and siblings and the rest of your family. May the love and care of others add to your strength in this time, especially when you see Ross. Blessings to 52 and your cousins and whoever else is helping with the farm and all the wonderful furbabies there. Suzanne, what a wonderful, beautiful tribute to your mother. I wish I could have thought of that type of tribute when our mother died….but it’s ok, you shared yours. Thank you, that in your time of loss and sorrow, you shared such beautiful thoughts and memories. I hope it comforts you to know this was yet another gift you have given your readers, especially those of us sharing the same loss. Anyway I’m rambling…..please take good care of yourself as well as your babies. Safe travels and hug each other LOTS.

  250. bonita says:

    Suzanne, today you may be focused on losing your mother so suddenly. But soon you will be able to delight in the wealth of memories and support she gave you throughout her long life. With all your interests and talents you will be able to keep her spirit with you all ways. Soon Morgan will realize how lucky she was to be able to say goodbye to one she loved and who loved her so much.

  251. Dixie Collins says:

    I’m holding you and your family in the light. My deepest condolences on the loss of your beautiful mother.

  252. Nikki says:

    Suzanne: I am very, very sorry for your loss. You have struck me as a kind, loving, and nurturing mother…gifts that seem to have been passed down from your own mother. My thoughts are of you and your loved ones. My deepest sympathies. ~Nikki

  253. AA says:

    So sorry. I wish I was closer so I could bring you a ham or something.

    Perhaps, I should explain to those not from Oklahoma (where I grew up) or Texas (where I live)…. Bringing food is how we show love and sympathy when someone dies.

  254. Linda says:

    So sorry to read of your loss. It is a traumatic event to lose your mother, no matter what age or situation. Your written tribute is beautiful and I hope it has begun the healing process. I lost my mom in July when I was 24, nearly 40 years ago and it still seems like just a few years ago. I hadn’t even realized it had been that long until I wrote this. Take care and cherish the memories!

  255. lauren says:

    Im so sorry to hear this 🙁 you will keep her beautiful memory alive…

  256. Patricia Herman says:

    My condolences to you and your family Suzanne. Prayers and hugs for everyone during this difficult time. Your mother sounded like an amazing woman who loved her kids and her grandkids. Cherish the memories.

  257. Leslie @ Farm Fresh Fun says:

    What a very special lady and a lovely tribute. She had much to be proud of… I am so sorry . I will pray for you and your family, especially at graduation. May God Bless.

  258. Valerie says:

    Oh, Suzanne, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers, particularly for Ross’s graduation.

  259. Sandra Price says:

    Suzanne, You capture your Mom’s zest for life in your written tribute and by your daily actions. A family can have no greater gift than a wonderful & loving Mom. Your words resonate many of the thoughts I felt, yet did not express, at my mom’s passing in 2007. Thank you for that. My condolences to you and your family.

    Sandra

  260. Barbie says:

    Suzanne, My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. What a loving tribute you wrote about your mother. Your mother would be proud of what you write about her, even the hip-wiggling.

  261. Melinda says:

    Don’t weep at my grave,
    for I am not there,
    I’ve a date with a
    butterfly to dance in the air.
    I’ll be singing in the
    sunshine, wild and free
    playing tag with the wind
    while I am waiting for thee.

    I do not know the author of this poem as I found it on the following web site: https://www.nextgenmemorials.com/memorialverses.html
    But it made me think of how you said your mama liked to “shake her thing” Whenever you see a colorful butterfly flitting through the air like it is dancing to some unheard music……remember and smile.

  262. Heather says:

    Sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. My condolences to you and your family.

  263. Lisa says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry. I know nothing is going to make this any easier, but please know there are lots of us out here that are thinking of you and crying right along with you.

  264. Dianne says:

    Suzanne I am so sorry. That was a beautiful tribute you wrote to your mother. You and your family are in my thoughts and don’t worry about us, we’ll be here when you are ready to return.

  265. Leanna says:

    Suzanne, so sorry to hear of your loss. Praying for you and your family comfort at this time and a wealth of good memories.

  266. Janet Smith says:

    Suzanne,
    Georgie asked for prayer for you and your kids in church this morning. I had no idea about your mother, but my family and many in Walton are in our prayers. We hope you all have a safe trip home!

  267. kitler says:

    Oh Suzanne, I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom. My sympathy to you and your family. I also don’t think anyone on here would think twice if there wasn’t a post for a few days or so. We all love you and it’s so great of you to keep us updated, but you need to let us take care of you now.
    Take some time for yourself. Blessings be upon you.

    Kit.

  268. Darlene in North Ga says:

    Suzanne,

    I sent you an email. Hope you see it before you get home.
    I wasn’t sure if you’d see your comments before you got home and I wanted to give you some info before you left Texas. I sent it to the author/contact aol one.

  269. Lynda Dunham-Watkins says:

    Suzanne, Your mother would have loved this. So sorry for your loss. My mom died at 90 soon to be three years ago. I miss her so very much. A hole forms in your heart when your mom leaves and it never closes. Just hold tight the wonderful memories. To hope that our children can give us a tribute such as this is much to hope for. Bless your family in this time of grief.

  270. Liz says:

    I agree with Kit, post #267; take some time for yourself. Sorry for your loss.

  271. Kathy Felton says:

    What a beautiful tribute to your Mom.
    It sounds like she was very proud of you and rightly so.
    I am so sorry for your family’s loss.

  272. MousE says:

    Oh, Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was a remarkable woman.

    My condolences. Good luck at Ross’s graduation.

    Thinking of you.

  273. Therese says:

    Suzanne, I am deeply sorry for your loss. Everyone should be so blessed to have a Mama like that. Prayers for you and your family.

  274. Annie says:

    Suzanne – I am so sorry for your loss.

    I am also a Navy Mom. My son’s PIR (graduation from boot camp) was in 2006. Your son’s graduation without your mom there will certainly be a bittersweet moment. Just an FYI though – the graduation is in a giant hall. It will be VERY crowded and VERY noisy. After the ceremony, a large bell is rung and a LOUD “LIBERTY CALL, LIBERTY CALL” announcement is made, and the guests are permitted to leave the bleachers for the first contact with their sailors on the floor. I am telling you this because it might not be the private moment of notification you are expecting, and may be very difficult on your son, with his buddies jumping for joy around him.

    Please know that the Red Cross handles notifications for military families. I have personal experience with this, and they were extremely helpful and sensitive to the situation. They will take care of contacting Great Lakes RTC. Just call your local Red Cross, and they will take care of the rest. You won’t have to explain anything or justify your request. They can ensure that your son is notified privately, after he completes training but before the ceremony, or perhaps arrange a phone call with you.

    Best of luck to you, your son, and your family.

    Again, I am so sorry for your loss, and am sending you and your family my thoughts and prayers.

  275. Patty says:

    Susanne and family, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom almost 5 years ago. Still to this day I reach for the phone to call her to ask her something or tell her about something I’d think she’d love. She loved flowers and was famous locally for both her flower gardens and her cooking. Whenever I see an iris(her favorite flower) or any beautiful flower beds, I think of her. When I’m cooking in my kitchen and especially with my kids I think of her. She is always right here with me, and you mom will be the same. That was a beautiful tribute you wrote and she’d be so proud. You’re all in my prayers. Big hugs to Morgan especially as I know they were close. Be strong for Ross. You made a good decision. You’re a Good Mother too.
    God Bless you all,
    Patty in Greeneville, TN

  276. Rah says:

    Suzanne, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Your tribute to your mother was touching, and I am so happy for you that you had such a supportive and loving relationship wtih her. God bless you.

  277. Kristen says:

    After that post, I feel like I know your mom, and now I miss her too. Take care of yourself and take comfort in the fact that so many care about you and are wishing you healing for this heartache (if you don’t believe me, just look at all these comments!). (((hugs)))

  278. DragonLady says:

    Suzanne: I am truly sorry for the loss of your wonderful mother. She sounds so lovely and should be an inspiration to females everywhere, young and old alike. God bless you and your family at this difficult time. 😥

  279. Nikki says:

    So so sorry for your loss!! I loved the tribute to her it made me smile warmly thinking back on my grandparents. I was lucky to have 4 growing up but they are all passed now. My husband has his grandmother still and she passes great wisdom on to us often! Extra hugs to the kids and especially Ross.

    Safe travels

  280. Michelle says:

    I am truly sorry for your loss. I love your blog and know she must have been very proud of you!

  281. Kathy (from southwestern pa) says:

    🙁 My heart hurts for you.

    Kathy

  282. Pat says:

    I am so so sorry for your loss. Losing one’s Mother is not an easy and I deeply sympathize with you. My prayers go out to you..

  283. Mary from Baton Rouge says:

    Suzanne, So sorry to hear about your loss. I it so hard losing a parent. I lost my mom 12 years ago, and I still miss her terribly. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  284. Deborah Phagan says:

    What a warm, loving, wonderful tribute you wrote for your mother. Your description of her made me smile, laugh, and feel the depths of the bond that you had with her. It also made me weep for your loss. You are a moving writer Suzanne and I know your precious mother was proud. May you find peace in all the sweet memories you have.

    Debby from Ohio

  285. Melinda says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your mother. What a shock for you and your family..So sad.
    I love what you wrote about her. You are right about how she would have loved it. Your respect and love and admiration for your mother glowed with every word. Exceptional women. Both of you.

  286. Kerry says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I, like Morgan, am very close to my grandmother and this sweet post is moving me to tears. I can only imagine how you all feel right now. I hope that in time, the pain subsides and the loving/happy memories take over and help you to get through this difficult time.

  287. Melissa Marsh says:

    Oh Suzanne, what a beautiful, heartrending post. Your mother sounded absolutely wonderul, and I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless you and your family through this difficult time.

  288. LindDis says:

    It is so hard to lose your mother. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
    Linda D

  289. DebnFla3 says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose a parent and I think losing my Mother has been the hardest to deal with.

  290. Daria says:

    So sorry for your loss. What a touching, fun tribute you’ve given your mom here.

  291. Meg says:

    Your mother is still, and always will be, so proud of you!! I’m so sorry you hurt right now. Time heals all, they say; perhaps not completely, but it gets better. Don’t you worry a bit – you shall see her again!!!!!

  292. beth Brown says:

    All I can say Suzanne, is that I’m so very sorry. Please know I’ll be sending you thoughts of peace and healing.

    Beth aka onoeoldgoat

  293. sandra says:

    I am so sorry for your loss! God’s peace, Sandrs

  294. SuseM says:

    Much hugs, loves, and prayers being sent up for you and your family.

  295. Susan says:

    My deepest sympathy Suzanne. I lost my good mother when I was 19–a little over 40 years ago. I still think of her almost every day. We are both very lucky with the mothers we had.

  296. Kim Clemons says:

    Suzanne, I’m so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what life will be like without my Mother in it. I hope that is still a long way off, but life is about both living and dying. Cherish the wonderful memories your Mother gave you… it’s her legacy to you. I will pray for you to gain strength from your loss and also for your son to be understanding to you when you have to break the news to him… he will probably be angry at first, but I am sure you raised a generous and understanding son who will see why you kept his Grandmother’s death from him the way you are. I will also pray for Morgan to find the peace she will be seeking with this loss.

  297. Pattyb says:

    Dear Suzanne,
    I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother sounded like a wonderful person!
    Take care,
    Pattyb

  298. morningstar says:

    Dear Suzanne,

    My heart hurts for you. May you take comfort in your many happy memories and the knowledge that the most important part of your mother remains alive in you and the rest of your family – a living tribute to her many wonderful qualities.

    Sincerely
    morningstar

  299. Susan says:

    So sorry for your loss Suzanne. I know how you feel. I lost my mother early last year. It does get easier with time.

  300. JeannieB says:

    Darling Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss, your blog was very moving, and she would have been proud of it. My prayers are with you and your family, God bless you all!!

  301. Terri Draeger says:

    There are not words to describe the pain & loss. Please know that you & your family are in our thoughts and prayers – and most definitely when you go to Ross’s graduation.

  302. Angelia M says:

    Oh, Suzanne, my eyes are filled with tears reading this post. I’m so sorry I just now was able to read it. I’m so very sorry about your loss. Please have a safe trip home. Hugs. Angie

  303. Sue says:

    I’m so sorry to hear you lost your Mama. She can’t be replaced ever and its good to know she adored you enough to “give you the big head”!!

    Sue, a Florida Farm Girl

  304. Linda Nehr says:

    I was so sorry to read your mother’s death. My sympathy goes out to you and your family. I cried when I read the blog you wrote about your mother and know this is a very difficult time for you and your family. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

  305. monica says:

    😥 I am sorry to hear of your loss. There is nothing that can replace the love of a mother. I wish I could call mine up and talk to her.

  306. Rachel says:

    Suzanne I am so sorry for your loss. :hug: What a beautiful tribute post to your beautiful mother. I’ll be thinking of you.

  307. Tobey says:

    I am so sorry for you and your family. Loosing a mother hurts like nothing else, but what wonderful memories and stories you have to tell.

    Just remember we are thinking of you and praying when you have to tell Ross about this heart-rending loss.

    Congrats to Weston for his new vehicle! That will be a LONG drive back, indeed. be sure to pack some crochet materials to help pass the time.

  308. christy Wood says:

    My heart goes out to you!! I lost my mom a year ago in June. It is such a terribly saddening event in life! But it sounds as though you were blessed with loving parents also, which happens to be one of the biggest blessings life can give! Thank God for great moms!
    My prayers are with you!

  309. margie says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. :heart: I read your site daily and feel such a loss for you and your family. :hug: Thank you so much for changing our lives and alot of other people. We are begining to keep a small farm of animals, chickens, ducks and stray dog, deers,neighbors calfs that were killed by panther attacks just after the animals came to wooded area in country to live. Proving to us just how hard it is to keep predators out,pigs, small baby goat, that thinks everyone is mama.Turkeys one left now.We made an 8 foot avary with chicken wire.and netting over the top. The panther went in the top chewing the fishing netting and entering the top of the 8 foot avary. The coop was fixed with wood and chicken wire and windows wired with chicken wire. The Animals have taking my blood pressure down to normal without meds now.The work has melted the weight off. Food and tv are not such a constant for me my daughter or grandchildren. The children and the animals are such a joy to watch and care for. Laughter is a constant for us now.I also remember my grandparents an the simple life that would be forgotten if it werent for people like you making it popular once more. Two day my two year old grandson walked around all day with a cabbage leaf for a hat. He thought it was so cool that it fit his head. until the bottle feed baby goat walked up to him and started eating it. You never seen such a sight. It was so funny. My grand children get such a kick out of feeding the bottle.I am sorry for ramblin on and on. Just thought I’d give a little that you have given to me and mine back in your time of need. 1st time poster.My prayers are with you and your loving family.

  310. Janie Lanningham says:

    Dear Suzanne & family,
    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are a very special person because she raised you with the same love you have for your own family.

    Sincerely,
    Janie from Idaho

  311. Debbie in PA says:

    Dear Suzanne and family,

    I am so sorry to read about your loss. This was such a beautiful post, but so bittersweet. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers in the upcoming days and weeks…..

    ~Debbie

  312. winifred says:

    I am so sorry you have lost your Mam. It’s one of the hardest things in life to bear and there’s so little anyone can say or do to help. It takes time. It’s such a blessing to have had a Mam that was so wonderful as so many people don’t have that. Take care.

  313. Milica says:

    .. Birds for your mother.. :snuggle: I wish I could say more.. I don’t know you, but my heart is with you now.

  314. CrystalGB says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. ((HUGS)) I will say a prayer for you and your family.

  315. Lisa L. says:

    So sorry for the loss of your beautiful mother. May you find peace in your memories and her love.

  316. lavenderblue says:

    Dear Suzanne and family, The loss of a parent is so hard to take. You think you’re a big girl, all grown up and you should be okay with it, yet you just want to curl up and cry like a baby. I can tell that the two of you had a great admiration society going on, Morgan, as well. You’ll have beautiful memories to sustain you.

    Don’t stress yourself over this blog, if it gets to be too much for you. Take some time off, if you need it. We’ll all be here when you feel like getting back to it. On the other hand, it could be therapy for you. Whatever it takes to get you through this time, we’ll support you. We love you and will be praying for you.

    With Sympathy,
    Debbie

  317. Mechele Armstrong says:

    So sorry to read about this. Sending many warm thoughts in your time of grief. Treasure the memories. Sounds like you had wonderful ones.

  318. highlandview says:

    God bless you Suzanne. Such a beautiful post and how wonderfully blessed you are to have had such a good mother.

  319. sahmcolorado says:

    Tears in my eyes from the last line of this post. Love to you and your family.

  320. farmkat says:

    So sorry for your loss, Suzanne. I lost my Mom six years ago. Praying for you and your family.

    Kathy

  321. Caryn says:

    My heart hurts for you and your children.

  322. TXLady says:

    Suzanne what a lovely tribute to your Mother. My daughter is visiting at the moment and I was thinking of her when I read this and hoping that my daughter can say such lovely things of me when I am gone. It sounds to me like you are going to celebrate her memory and that would be my wish when I leave these bounds…that all who know me are saddened by my passing but remember me quickly not with sadness but with smiles on their faces…….Thoughts for you and your family………..

  323. Tammy says:

    Suzanne, So sorry for the loss of your mom. Sounds like she had a wonderful life. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers.

  324. Holly says:

    Beautiful beautiful tribute to your mom. Peace be with your family.

  325. mommy2kai says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. You’ve written a lovely tribute to her, no dobut she would be honored. I lost my own mother suddenly this past November, and it has impacted my life in ways I never expected. Peace be with you and your family.

  326. Connie says:

    I started bawling when I read your post . . . my mom died unexpectedly, the day before you posted this, and I didn’t read it until the day after . . . I feel so blessed to have had a wonderful relationship with my mom. Looks like you & I have that in common. My condolences to you & your family, and prayers will be with you, when you tell your son.

  327. Suzette says:

    It took me a couple of days to feel like I could respond to this post. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is never easy, but a sudden, unexpected loss is especially difficult. I love how eloquently you wrote about your mother, and I hope your own words brought you some comfort. I also hope you find comfort in your mother’s obvious spirituality. Your online friends are here for you. Can you feel the love?

  328. cranberry says:

    What a WONDERFUL mother she was to you. Sounds like vice versa. God Bless her and God Bless you.

  329. Laney says:

    With a choked up throat and tears in my eyes, I offer you my deepest condolences. I am so very sorry for your loss.
    Your Mom WOULD have loved your post about her and I think, even if it was secretly, she would like the hip-wiggling part.
    :hug:

  330. Joyce says:

    What a wonderful tribute to someone I wish I had met! My sympathies are with you and your family.

  331. ScreamingSardine says:

    Oh, Suzanne, I’m so sorry. I haven’t been able to check your blog lately, so my condolences are a little late, but they’re very sincere. Big hugs to you and your family.

  332. Katina says:

    Suzanne, my depest condolences on your loss. Your mother sounds like a wonderful woman and God is lucky to have her in His graces now. Thank you for sharing and God bless.

  333. Lori in CA says:

    Oh honey, I am soooo sorry. I have tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat. I am sending you a hug from across the country. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  334. nerosmom says:

    :snuggle: As a mother I know that your Mom probably couldn’t be more proud of you. As a daughter I know that we are blessed to have the mothers that we do…and you will always have her in your heart. My prayers to you and your family Suzanne.

  335. Cousin Sheryl says:

    Suzanne, you know how much I love(d) your mom and I will miss her very much. She was my cousin, too. Those summers that we sat on the porch and talked were wonderful! She helped me through some really tough times with her wisdom and understanding.

    She was a very, very special person and I think an angel sent went I needed her on those summer evenings a few years ago.

    I wrote a lovely post on the day you put this up and then a satellite glitch caused me to lose it and I couldn’t remember everything I wrote to write it down again. But, know this, my previous post was a tribute to her and a prayer for you and the kids. You know I luv ya!

    :heart:

  336. MissyinWV says:

    Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss.Your Mother sounds like she has been such a blessing to you and many others. She gave you the most important thing a mom could ever give her child….the feeling that you could be anything you ever wanted, because she believed in you. I have lost both my Grandparents that raised me 19 weeks apart. I know the pain that it causes each time you reach for the phone. Right now I know that even the good memories can sting your eyes with tears….but there will come a day that you smile when those same memories cross your mind…those memories are the bridge that connects you forever…Your Mother left such a wonderful Legacy in you…You are a blessing to so many. Love and Prayers to you and your family throughout this difficult time. God Bless.

  337. Melissa says:

    Suzanne,
    And if you need a shoulder after you tell Ross…Just grab me at graduation.

    Melissa (N4M)

  338. Rys says:

    I am so very sorry for you loss. It sounds like you were blessed with a wonderful Mom!
    (((HUGS)))
    Rys

  339. Kalona says:

    I am a new reader to your blog. This post broke my heart and made me cry. I’m sorry for the loss of your mom. May she rest in peace, and may the perpetual light shine on her.

  340. Evelina says:

    I read this last month and I didn’t know what to say. Something inside of me freaked out. I couldn’t even begin to imagine what you went through, and what you are going through. It is now happening to me.

    Even though I have my brother and my Uncle and his wife helping out as my Mom’s days are coming to a close in her home, (she’s going home today with the help of a hospice), I still feel blessed that I came across your post about your Mom. My Mom loved every word I wrote, too. No, I haven’t published anything, not even thinking about it. But, like your Mom, she just loved my writing, and she often wondered if I shouldn’t try to take it up professionally.

    It sure gives me the warm fuzzies all over to remember all the things my Mom said about my writing. How descriptive I was, how I made things alive through my writing. And I’m just so happy to see you, too, have the shared the same experience with your Mom about your writing.

    I hope all is going well, and thank-you for sharing. I am taking courage from your blog right now, and seeing how you have moved on, and I know I will be okay. Sad, but okay. I, too, see how my Mom’s life is a celebration, all that our Mom’s accomplished.

    I see my mother living in my children and my toddler grandson. What a blessing children are at this moment in time – to feel the love, and to know you carry a bit of your Mom forward in your children surrounding you. It is like having a bit of your Mom with you….always. In our children we carry forward our mothers.

    HUGS! And prayers your way.

    Evelina

  341. GingerB says:

    I am new to your site and am enjoying it immensely. We have much in common; I lost a good Dad in July. I also had a son in the military, and sent him a near identical letter! So sorry for your loss, and I identify with many of the “learning experiences” you have encountered!

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