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My Oklahoma grandmother sewed draperies. She didn’t always sew draperies–she was a farm mother on a dusty plains farm for most of her life. I wish I’d spent more time with her, but I didn’t see her very often and by the time I was in my 20s, she was in a nursing home. When I was little, she taught me to crochet, but I bet she could have taught me a lot more. (She said, “Do you want to learn to knit or crochet?” And she showed me the implements. I chose crochet because there was only one hook.) One of the few memories I have of my Oklahoma grandfather was him sitting on the curb outside our house in Silver Spring, Maryland, the Christmas I was five and got my first bicycle with training wheels. He watched me ride up and down the street. He died not long after that. We visited my grandmother periodically during my childhood–by then, she lived in a little house in town in Frederick. It was a small town, and I don’t know what it’s like now, but there was still a little department store in town and a short main street with businesses. It was so different from anything I knew. I grew up in the suburbs of big cities. Even more bizarre was when we drove outside the town to visit the old farm. Just tumbled-down fence posts and deserted broken-down barns framed by an endless horizon. I couldn’t imagine my fancy mother could have possibly sprung from such a dusty desolation.
My grandmother’s house in town was the littlest house I’d ever been in. All the rooms opened into each other, no hallways. In the back she had a porch with a bed where you could sleep outside in the summer, and there was a chicken house in the yard so she could wring supper’s neck. You can take a farm mother off the farm, but you can’t take the farm out of the farm mother.
My grandparents left the farm and moved to town after my brother died in a tractor accident on their farm. This happened before I was born, but I’ve been scared of tractors all my life. Since I live on a farm, this type of lifelong paranoia is super handy. My mother never learned to milk a cow, by the way, despite growing up on a farm. I asked her about this once, after I got BP, and she told me that my grandmother told her that she was not allowed to milk the cow. If she knew how to milk a cow, according to my grandmother, she would end up marrying a farmer. My grandmother wanted “better” for her, so she was not allowed to milk.
My mother did her best, but darn it all, her own daughter left the bright lights and ran off to a farm and got a cow.
Just goes to show ya.
Anyway! After my grandmother moved to town, she set up shop in her little house making draperies for the townies, which surely means I am genetically drapery-oriented.
As if that’s not enough, there are the curtain rods that crossed the prairie. Yes, I have in my possession the iron curtain rods carried across the prairie in a covered wagon by my great-grandmother in 1904.
I come from a long, well, okay, short, line of people who honor window coverings.
And yet I loathe, despise, and abhor curtains. I used to like curtains. Curtains were a huge part of styling any home I lived in. I changed curtains frequently, always seeking the perfect curtains. Never finding them. Eventually, I realized I just didn’t like curtains. OF ANY KIND.
At Stringtown Rising, I gave up curtains completely. There were no curtains in that house. There were wood blinds on the master bedroom and bathroom windows, that’s it. No curtains or blinds elsewhere in the house.
I loved it.
When I came to Sassafras Farm, the first thing I did was start ripping down curtains.
There are shades in the living room and dining room, and so far, I’ve left them. They’re inconspicuous enough to be tolerable.

I was reaching out to rip the curtains down off the kitchen window when “my Debbie” (those of you from the CITR retreat know Debbie our cook) stopped me and implored me to try living with them a while. I’m trying.

We’ll see. I pushed them all the way to the sides as far as I could.
The house at Stringtown Rising was halfway up a hill, so no curtains made sense to most people. No one could possibly see inside. Here, the house is not far from the road, but still I have never lowered the shades in the living room and I never pull closed the curtains in the kitchen. I can only live with them if they are out of the way all the time. Even at night. There are white wood blinds on my bedroom window, and I can take it there, but I can’t take anything covering a window anywhere else in the house.
Possibly it’s a form of dementia. Bare window psychosis.
How about you? What is your psychological window profile? If you have curtains because your house is on the street, would you have curtains if you didn’t feel as if you had to? Are you a curtains person?
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I have blinds up, just to keep people from looking in.
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In their house now, up on a hill, she wouldn’t even have blinds. Not even in the bathroom! …which has full-length windows that look in on the tub. It wasn’t until the county utility guys started climbing around on the hill, (which she discovered while stepping out of the shower), that she finally, reluctantly, put blinds in. Even then, she picked blinds that match the interior paint.
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I like to pull them when it’s cold and stormy so the cozy doesn’t leak out too, even the new windows! I do like the shades in your living room because they’re nice and simple, and the kitchen ones are cute, I’d be ok with them in both cases.
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I feel like we are on display if the windows aren’t covered.
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Like Miz Carmen said, I think that the no curtain bug skips a generation. My Mom and daughter don’t care for them, but I like to be able to close them at night.
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So, I highly offended granddaughter this summer when I would not shut the living room wooden blinds or pull curtains at night, and would not let her pull the curtains (purely for decoration) in her bedroom. She did not understand that there is nothing out there to look inside except the dog! And maybe someone about 10 feet tall.
I do close the blinds in winter at night because of the drafts, not because I want to. This is not an old house, but it sure is drafty.
Someone said the curtains bug must skip a generation, and it is true. My daughter has so many blinds and drapes and junk, it makes me crazy. You have to spend minutes moving things just to look outside. All the fabric does is collect dust. BUT, her back yard is totally privacy fenced and full of trees, yet she has only one window facing the back. I call her house the cave. She swears she could get sunburned having her morning coffee here. (We are both teasing, of course.)
Now it is just morning, and I have opened all the blinds, cold drafts be darned. Two windows in the living room are never closed, since the dog alarm tells me if anyone comes up that way, and, my bedroom drapes are never closed since there is a privacy curtain half way up. Dining room drapes are just for punches of color and hang to the sides of the windows, to better show off plants. Those windows are high enough that no one can look in anyway… house is built on a slope.
When the roofers were here, I had to hide a bit now and then, but that was only for bits of two weeks.
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I like curtains–not drapes, just curtains. We have lived in 3 home in 35 years, and they have all had the same style curtains, white cape cod curtains, and I love them. We also have mini blinds now because of homes being around us, even though we are 2 acres apart, I still like my privacy at night.
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My house came with custom made curtains on the living room window, and they’re really nice, so they’re still hanging. All the other windows have blinds. My husband insists on all the blinds being closed most of the time, because he likes it dark. It’s a conflict of the first order, but he’s coming around. The fact that he loves the cats and they crave sunshine helps immensely. I DO have a sheer lace panel on our bedroom window, over the blind, with a swag. It’s my only attempt at decorating a window in our house.
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I, too, was “peeked at” … and more…in the country. In addition to the closed curtains/drapes, add an outdoor light system activated by motion and a security camera. Give me my cave!
Was in Seattle this past weekend and sorely missed my daily dose of CITR.
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I then moved to a farm house where I made some insulated drapery to keep out the winter cold. Never used them in the summer. I bought a house in town, where my bedroom window faced the neighbor’s back yard. They practically lived in that backyard, so I had drapes in that room. I had drapes in the living room but usually didn’t use them. I don’t remember drapes in the kitchen or on the back porch. Since the spare bedroom faced the road and the neighbor’s backyard I put something up.
For the last 9 years my husband and I live in the basement of what was my parents house. It has two sliding glass doors. We do have some blinds up, but rarely close them.
I can’t wait to sell this house and move to a house with real windows. It depends on how close we are to the neighbors as to where some type of window covering will be placed. I hate to cover a window over the kitchen sink. I would not mind some type of shades if they can be hidden when not needed.
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At our cabin, I needed something on the windows to keep the heat in so I hung celluar shades.
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When we finally could afford to get new windows in, they completely redid that whole wall and put in smaller energy-efficient ones. So now I only have valances across the top, with miniblinds for privacy if we need it. They are seldom closed.
I love to be able to see out all the time and look at all the wildlife, gardens and everything that’s here. No close neighbors so that’s a plus.
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If you grandparents lived in Frederick OK then they were about an hour and a half from my grandparents who lived in Cement…..
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I tried for years without success to find a window covering I liked for the living room. It’s a rather dark room with windows overlooking the driveway. We finally settled for growing bushes outside the window, which obscures the view both ways but still lets in light.
We have a sort of a sunroom at the back of the house and that’s where I spend most of my time. The whole east wall is windows and French doors. The windows have white wooden blinds, but I leave them open all the time. I’m like a potted plant: I need sunlight to thrive. If one of the neighbors ever wanted to peek over the brick wall surrounding our little yard, they could see in, but it would be a pretty boring view; I don’t think they’d bother doing it twice.
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My grandmother’s kitchen had lots of windows, including 2 over the kitchen sink, like yours. I remember that room as always FILLED with light because she made simple, white, rod pocket curtains that she could push open when her feet hit the floor in the mornings and pull together as dusk settled each night.
Suzanne, I encourage you to remember that you and Morgan are out in the country alone. Please consider adding curtains that afford some privacy at night and pulling them closed at night, along with pulling those shades down. And buy a good shotgun; learn to shoot it; keep it loaded in a safe, accessible place. A indoor dog is a great friend and alarm.
As a single mother, I faced the intruder with a baseball bat–all between him and my small children. Never again.) To you and your readers, bad people don’t just drive by; they come to the windows and porches. The world isn’t what it was in the 1950s, not even in the country.
Be light and sunny, but be safe!
Pat in Eastern NC
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I have a house right now that has lovely woodwork surrounding the windows and it seems that curtains just hide that beauty. There are mini-blinds on the bedroom windows because we live in the city, but if the lights are out I can’t resist opening the blinds to let the moonshine in.
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I’m about a 2-hour drive away from Frederick, Oklahoma right now! I’ve been there many times, used to even work there periodically.
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I am with your debbie though…light, airy curtains, especially pulled back wouldn’t bug me.
My only neghbors are the goats and they are in rut right now….blinds work here too…
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I’m with the “I want to feel like I’m outside” group. We are waaayyyy out and if an “uninvited guest” shows up, he/she will not be greeted quietly!
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I love the Light!
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Funny you wrote about this as my husband ASKED for a curtain in the lower east living room window. One of my cats, Gray, climbs the fiberglass screen to look at us sitting there and say that he either wants in or wants grub. DH throws a hissy fit. So now HE wants one curtain in a two window room. I told him the obvious: the cat will use the other window.
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When we bought our house in the woods I told my DH that I did not want curtains on any of the windows. He wanted curtains on ALL the windows.
Soon I noticed that early every morning when our neighbor drove by on his way to work, he would honk & wave. I decided that maybe I needed to have curtains on the bedroom & bathroom windows after all.
Turns out my DH asked the neighbor to do that every time he drove past our house. A few years later, after our neighbor passed away, his son continued the tradition.
My DH got curtains in half of the house. http://chickensintheroad.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif
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I just got home from two weeks away . . . we had a huge sinkhole in our block, destroying half the houses. Ours was spared, and we just moved back in today. It feels kind of good, but half our neighbors are gone because their houses can’t be lived in. It’s very strange – I feel like a homesteader in my own neighborhood.
It’s good to be home though. And great to be back here. Happy New Year to you all!
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